By Stan Onodu
Marriage is honorable. Everyone desires a peaceful and love-filled relationship or marriage. Many ladies have a lot of misconceptions about attracting the right man into their lives. Some think it’s by dressing half-naked or by easily getting laid that attracts men to them. This way, however, you will certainly earn some attention, but the question is: who are they? Are they men you would like to spend the rest of your life with?
Today, we want to look at how a christian lady can attract a Godly man for marriage. As mentioned earlier, worldly people employ all-kinds of unwholesome style but christians MUST stand-out in the following ways:
Decency. There is a saying that the way you dress is the way you’re addressed. Christian ladies must make sure that they dress and present themselves well. Let me tell you: men are visual and no man, including christian men, who will not recognize when he sees a lady he likes. And how do you as a christian lady attract his attention? By dressing decently viz: covering every part of your body appropriately with outfits that complement your figure; nice shoes; good hair-do and well-manicured/pedicured nails. You may not wear make-up or perfume but if you must wear make-up, it must be moderate, not shouting, so as not to create an impression of who you are not.
Confidence. Confidence is very attractive. As a christian lady, are you always confident in yourself? Do you know your worth and value? Do you love yourself for who you are, and the way you look? Don’t forget: these things show in your personality and carriage. Men get easily attracted to women of confidence. That you’re a christian is not an excuse but you must be careful not to misconstrue confidence as pride or arrogance.
Friendly Disposition. They say: to be a friend, you need to be a friend. Relationships are founded on friendships. So, you have to learn to be friendly. You need to be approachable. Make it possible for people to get along with you easily; always show love, caring and kindness. Learn to wear smiles on your face. This way you would be attracting Godly attention to yourself.
Respect for People. Respect for others is yet another key for attracting Godly men. The truth is: beauty is not the ultimate in marriage but character and personality are. Beauty can attract a man to you but it’s your character that determines whether he stays or not. People normally, especially in the church, observe your character from afar. They want to see if you’re that kind of a christian lady who respects and honors other people. If you are, I would not be surprised to see a Godly man making moves towards getting to know you.
Love God. When you love God with all your heart, mind and soul, HE will make HIS abode in you, and through the power of the Holy Spirit, HE will continually direct your affairs including that of attracting a Godly husband. This love of God will show in everything you do and in the way you relate with people. God says: you are the light of the world. It will become true in your life. People will quickly discern that you would not find it difficult to respect and submit to your husband.
Kingdom Service. There is always an opportunity for you to serve in the church. By genuinely working in God’s vineyard, HE will work in your own vineyard. That is HIS promise! By serving in the choir; being a church warden; or being a member of any other pious society in the church, you showcase yourself for the congregation to evaluate your character and personality. But don’t you ever enter into Kingdom Service because you want to attract a man. Let it be instead, because you love God and you love to serve HIM. That way HE will meet you at the points of your needs.
Mistreatment of Men. As a christian lady who wants to contract a Godly marriage, how do you handle men who approach you? It’s like customer service! Most customers when they are mishandled, they tell as many prospective customers as come their way, how they were mistreated. And this impacts on the company’s sales margin. It is the same when a lady turns down a man rudely. He will spread the ‘gospel’ amongst other faithfuls in the church. You will be portrayed as unapproachable and that will scare other men that were eyeing you and were just waiting for an opportunity to let you know about it. If you’re to turn down a guy you don’t quite like, you’ve got to do it politely with love. God bless you!
The love and fear of God should be the salient guiding principles for christian ladies seeking to attract Godly men for marriage. If everything is done beginning with God, it will surely end with God taking centre-stage of the relationship and eventual marriage.