By Reeny Carvotta Barron
Your pursuit towards your desires encourages you towards your own achievement. This drives you toward greater satisfaction in your life lays a new blueprint for more positive experiences.
- Do you have a strategy for staying healthy?
- For staying passionate?
- For living some part of your dream every day?
- What does that look like for you?
- What could it look like if you let it?
We’re taught not to be too self-important, not to be conceited or think too highly of yourself. Women particularly are programmed to be hard on themselves and judgmental. We’re taught that how you look is more important than what you think. You’re taught to put the needs of others before our own.
Whatever you believe intellectually, it can be hard to overcome these stereotypes and break out into what is yours to do and feel good about it. To feel confident and purposeful. That said, it’s an ‘inside job’ one you must do yourself. When in pursuit towards your desires begin with valuing yourself, your contributions, your visions, your goals and your dreams.
Small gratifications in your pursuit towards your desires make up the bigger picture of satisfaction. To build your bold and courageous – and envisioned – future. Create a vision board, write it down, and/or take a picture and keep it in your wallet.
When you train a dog, you do it through a series of positive rewards. Eventually the dog learns that if it does this, it gets that. We use food and treats to create positive reinforcement.
Our mind works very much like the dog in this instance; repetition and positive reinforcement eventually create an outcome you desire. You are creating positive experiences; you’re ‘racking them up’ so you can move further and further in the pursuit of your desires toward success.
In your pursuit towards your desires, act by doing this consistently and repeatedly. This creates new neural pathways, trains and re-trains your brain to get more of you what you desire. Through remembering positive experiences, you develop strategies for driving toward greater satisfaction, for staying healthy and contributing to your being.
However, if in the pursuit of the one thing, you desire the most, you begin to deny yourself any fun or free time, and are feeling constantly insecure, unsuccessful, unimportant, and unsafe, you’re living your life in a state of lack, hoping one day that you will have an experience that you do want.
Does this mean that you should just work on your state and ignore what is driving you? Not at all!
Focus on what you want
We often need to clear away the dirt and see clearly and it’s often surprising how much easier it is to do when there is guidance. Really, when you stop and think about it, most things are easier when you have help, but you seem to think that when it comes to our personal changes – you should be able to do it alone. When you are in pursuit of your desires, yes, you can do it alone, but sometimes you lose perspective on yourself, having no ability to be objective.
This is like a step by step process of cleaning the window – think of it as the window to your soul, or your inner longings, and it can be a profound journey, possibly the most important one you’ll undergo. Once you start to see clearly – you will now have the ‘what’ identified in many areas of your life.
For some, it is like peeling back the layers of the onion, more and more revealing and less clutter as you peel back. For others, it is like cleaning the dirty window of their mental vision. Suddenly daylight streams in, illuminating all that was there, but lying dormant, unseen. For some the process is very quick, for other it’s slower. Either way, it’s always an exciting process that has a positive outcome.
Learn to discern what’s right for you – know or get clear on what you want and then get out of the way as this makes for a life that’s rewarding – a life of purpose, passion and clarity.
In your pursuit towards your desires, these are simple questions, but they can give you some real insight into where you resist and where you’re open. Often the ideas you have originating in our growing up years. Even if you’ve changed radically, you still hold the ideas and beliefs from your family of origin somewhere in our heart or head.
It’s good to occasionally shine a light onto your beliefs and see if they still serve you. It’s helpful to separate out what comes from your head and what comes from your heart.