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HOW TO BE DETERMINED AND ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING
Inspiring people is a great quality to possess that has made me want more out of life. Along with inspiration came along competition and striving to be the best. This has made me also adapt the "be hard and disciplined on yourself," philosophy.
Being competitive and number one has it's perks. So, I challenge you to be number one. And if you're not competitive it's okay. It's about being better.
Could you do this for yourself?
To succeed I learned to nourish my mind, spirit and soul. These things are the precious assets I possess. Invest in them. They are the ones that will get you closer to your dream.
I believe you must immerse yourself in your dream. This is the only way you'll stay inspired and overcome obstacles.
My dream is to become an inspirational blog writer. It's an impossibility to some, but a possibility for me. I do not understand why they can't see that.
But it's my stubbornness that also helps me keep going. And when negativity has enter my heart. I have not let it destroy my dreams. Even when things are discouraging.
You have to keep going everyday. Push yourself to win by seeking new higher levels even if you're scared. You don't know how scared I am to fail. But I am here aren't I?
It's your responsibility to accomplish your goal. Then reap the big rewards that come with your hard earn sweat.
Just do it even if you don't know where to start by grinding everyday.
I haven't reached the height of my success yet and I work on this every day. Work has allowed me to stop thinking about quitting.
Part of life is overcoming the road blocks standing in your way by making a difference in a person's life.
And how exciting would it be if you start with yours?
So, do not give up on yourself. I imagine the difference achieving my goal will make in my life. And I will not stop until I have let out my last dying breath when I am old and wrinkly. But before then, I will rise above all adversities by getting better daily. Finding ways to inspire and make a difference in myself first.
The idea of being an inspirational writer, keeps me alive. I truly see a book published having my name. This is something I want to prove to myself.
The art of inspiring is a craft I haven't yet mastered and I am learning everyday. I find space to learn it.
Brendon Burchar once said something similar, "It's your responsibility to achieve your goal when people disagree with you." So, it's best I hold on tight to my dreams and goals.
Because mastering the art of inspiration will allow me to spend more time with the things I love most like: family and inspirational writing.
I want to use this gift and share it with the world because it has done wonders in me. I have achieved a lot in life by feeling inspired.
What better way to enjoy life doing the things I love most. You get the point? Just get inspired.
Start by being hard on yourself by setting goals.
To make a difference in your own life you must master your fears. They matter in achieving goals.
Adopt a healthy self-improvement journey in your life. Be competitive with your own self. It will take you places never before imagined.
Start by defining a goal and knowing where it will take you. It loses direction if you don't tell it. Your goal should have direction.
Choose a direction filled with happiness and joy. If possible choose a route with mental and spiritual awakening. I have.
You'll eventually achieve your goal along the way. Just remember that it's the small differences in life that will help you keep going.
Also do everything possible to achieve it.
I am doing everything I can. My ultimate goal is to publish an inspiring book that will encourage people to achieve theirs. I am not giving up on that.
I have come this far by setting goals and believing something special out there is for me.
Believe there's something special waiting for you too.
The only thing waiting for me is inspiring people. I enjoy sharing my knowledge with the rest. I do it by pushing myself to grow each day.
It's a great feeling doing what I love doing best in this world. And I want to do that again. So, I took up the challenge to learn how to inspire by setting up a blog and sharing it.
Last week I inspired one person, and it's those little differences that help me keep going.
The more I inspire the further my confidence grew. I know I can do this.
Just work intelligently, persistently and you'll prevail. The more you invest in yourself the more you'll succeed.
Opportunities will open up to you the more you work on yourself. Allow yourself to be open.
I take every opportunity that will help me improve.
I am always on alert implementing new ideas to get better.
"Wow this is a good idea,"
I write it down to and share it.
Despite writing for years I know writing it will replace my day job. As I constantly work on getting better. I feel it getting closer.
I believe words change people. That is why it has caught my attention, how they heal, mold and transform people. As an aspiring writer it's my dream to have my work shared and
make a change in the world positively.
That is why I started a blog.
Nothing in this world is easy. Life is one long struggle and nothing is certain. I am not satisfied. So, I keep writing to change that dissatisfaction.
I wish I can work on your dream, but it would be emotionally draining. It's your responsibility to work on yours.
Even when your family and friends are doubting you. Do not be surprised. You'll come across that a lot. Do not take it personal.
Just keep improving yourself as you share your dreams to disapprovingly faces.
Perhaps they are right, but do not believe them. I don't.
Lastly, don't rush things too; slowly you'll get further. I learned this lesson the hard way.
SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE
By Dr. Noelle Nelson
How do you see yourself? As a hero or a victim? In any given life circumstance, you can see yourself either way.
I recently moved into my new home. As is often the case with a "new" home, that is to say new to me, although built in the mid 1960s, it has what is euphemistically referred to as a few "issues." As in, I was scheduled to leave town for work first thing Friday morning, and Wednesday night, both toilets in my house ceased to function. This mattered greatly, as the puppy-sitter who was booked to take care of my beloved dogs in my absence could not be expected to stay over-night without a functioning toilet, and it being a Holiday weekend, I would not be able to find a place to board them last-minute.
Hero or victim? First thought, victim! Of all the times for the toilets to fail, and not one, but both toilets! After frantic calls to plumbers not returning my call (more "victim"), worrying myself sick over "Now, what?! This is a disaster!"(yet more "victim") I took myself in hand, and gave myself a talking-to.
As in, "who would you like to be, Noelle?" A whiny victim, or a successful hero? Good question! Because, you see, I know from long experience, that a hero is simply someone who refuses to see a problem as unsolvable, and forges on until some kind of solution is unearthed. Sometimes that means being Captain Marvel and saving the world, sometimes it's just me figuring out a toilet situation.
Once I shifted my perspective, it dawned on me to contact the repair person who'd fixed some odds and ends; maybe he'd know a willing plumber. To my surprise, he turned out to be the willing plumber. Plus, he was up for a crack-of-dawn visit to the local home improvement center, purchasing two new guaranteed fully-functioning toilets--at a reasonable price, no less-- and installing them, all before I had to leave Friday morning. Whew.
Had I stuck with my "Woe is me, life is so unfair" position, I would not have continued trying to come up with a solution. It was only when I told myself that somehow I'd get this handled that the idea came to me to contact the repair person.
Next time you are up against what could easily be defined as a victim situation, challenge yourself to find your inner hero. You'll be surprised at just how innovative they (you) are.
Does it seem like it takes a lot of motivation to just take that first step of starting a new project, article or business venture? Are you unsure or confused as to what God's will or purpose is in your life?
There is so much more to life than living out each day and not having a purpose for that day. How many miraculous blessings have I missed throughout my life just squandering the days away and expecting to be blessed when I don't focus on God's will or purpose?
I love to write but sometimes my lack of motivation keeps me from my writing. When I am motivated, it gives me the will to create, be productive and achieve a sense of satisfaction. I actually get things accomplished, which in turn takes my inaction to action and I feel growth, and a feeling of significance and more power because of mastering my purpose in this life.
By excelling my motivation, I then have the opportunity to touch other people's lives by my writing and so it becomes the main focus of my life that I enjoy. When I learn to overcome being stuck and become motivated, I am living out my dream of spreading the word of God and His powerful influence in my life.
I have found that the results for living out God's plan for my life now opens the door for more blessings... how great is that?
You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 10:36
The best way to stay motivated for whatever your life's purpose, is to not worry specifically what that is. The best thing to do is take action! Create a schedule that is realistic and stick to it. Do God's will and it will happen naturally and in His timing as shown:
" For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Your schedule will be something similar to this depending on your God-given talent or area of interest:
Every day is a great opportunity to:
Start off the day with prayer. Read the Bible and or listen to a recorded Christian radio show. My favorite is Intouch.org with Charles Stanley. The online radio broadcast lasts about twenty minutes. After dinner, read the Bible and do Bible study. If there is a church service today, it's good to attend and co-mingle with other people of faith and learn more about His word. Volunteer for help needed when you feel the Holy Spirit prompting you.
Reach out to friends and relatives that are not saved and have a friendly conversation. Tell them about what great things God has done for you and is presently doing in your life, and lead them to Christ.
Write an article or work on your particular project and donate something or time to charity.
Do marketing for articles and or products and submit articles to other Christian blogs and social media. Also posting comments on blogs or forums with the related website link will allow for more exposure.
Rinse and Repeat! Now there may be some days where you need to work overtime or a big event comes up and some things need to be moved around. Being there for your family also is a huge priority. Raise your children with more attention and Godly discipline and you will have fewer worries when they are grown!
Another way to achieve even more motivation is to be aware that the days are short and you never know when you may run out of time to fulfill God's will.
Yet you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow. You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes away. James 4:14
Do as much as you can weekly and record your daily accomplishments. Add extra or different Godly activities that fit your life. Review them weekly and see if you are staying motivated for God's Kingdom and watch how you soon will discover your life's purpose!
HOW TO RESTORE PASSION FOR YOUR LIFE!
When was the last time you felt truly passionate about something? Felt good, right? And so it should! Good thing is, you can learn how to restore passion for your life.
Passion is most evident when body, mind and spirit work together to create, articulate or manifest feelings, ideas and values. Passion is ignited when all of you work together. It is the presence of your soul combined with the totality of all you've experienced, and it empowers to live at optimal levels.
Passion your natural state. When what you do is in alignment with who you are, it increases your energy. Passion is like water flowing along its natural riverbed, gaining momentum from its course - unlike many work environments, where it feels more like trying to force water up and over a mountain!
Passion creates resilience. It enables you to overcome obstacles and to look beyond current setbacks to the infinite potential that's yours to claim. The passionate soul discovers nuggets of potential in every situation.
Passion transfers vibrant energy to every person or situation it touches. You can't fake it. Anyone can spot a phony by sensing lack of authenticity and depth in their actions.
And yet, many people run from passion because they're afraid of being burned. They hang on to the pain of betrayed trust and misplaced confidences as a reminder to dampen their own passion, lest they be hurt again. Perhaps they held the bucket for soulless greed and overzealous egos disguised as passion. Consequently, they're afraid of taking the risk to live life fully, openly and passionately. They may have even vowed to never go there again.
Instead, they opt for a more predictable, monochromatic existence. Rather than taking exploring the endless possibilities of life, they insist on hiding inside a safety bubble; giving up on adventure to exist in a sanitary, colorless world where nothing new happens.
What they really need is to restore their passion!
If you want a juicy life, you need to open your heart and mind to the multidimensional experience of passionate living every day.
Can you imagine how much more meaningful our roles as parents, lovers, business owners, employees, teachers and leaders would be if all our actions were predicated on our true passion? There is no limit to how far your influence can reach! To tap into your potential, you must engage life with passion. By bringing passion to what you do, you express every aspect of your creative being.
Here's the secret to living a passionate life: Never try to throttle down your passion for fear of what might show up! You cannot selectively suppress some part of your being without also suppressing the rest of your energy. When you suppress your passion, you also suppress your Life Force.
Truth is, every activity you engage in expresses the whole of you - much like one part of a hologram reflects the whole in its entirety. Even if you pick a narrow skill like running a marathon or cooking, your whole sense of self is expressed through that activity when doing it with passion.
When living from your passion, you bring your entire identity to the party, not just an isolated part. This may sound daunting, but actually it's the most natural way to approach anything.
When you hold some part of yourself back, you deny it exposure to life; you repress its energy and keep it from learning what it needs to know. Imagine a baby who wants to learn how to walk but has these reservations:
- I don't want to look bad.
- I don't want to fall down.
- I don't want to fail.
- I don't want to expend all my energy.
- I don't want any pain.
- I don't want to suffer.
It would seem absurd! If these thoughts prevail, the chance for mastery could never present itself. Yet as adults we resort to such reservations all the time - and deny ourselves mastery as a result.
The minute a situation arises, all the negatives around that situation will arise in the mind along with all the possibilities. The key is that you have a choice about which to focus on!
When you choose to focus on negatives, you yield to subconscious fear to shut out understanding. Do that often enough and you become a victim, subject to bewildering fears that can threaten to overwhelm you. These fears aren't coming from blind fate or misfortune; they simply represent holes in your awareness, the places where you haven't dared to look yet.
To break free from such self-limiting behavior, try looking at an issue that has kept you from totally engaging in life. For instance, if you are worried about what others may think of your effort, then that is the issue you need to challenge!
When I launched out into a solo practice, well-intended friends questioned whether I would make it in a highly demanding field. I chose not to listen to the voices of apprehension; instead, I redoubled my efforts because my passion is to help people.
At the time, it was the scariest, riskiest, most challenging thing I could think of doing with my life. It was also the one thing that kept me dreaming and working against all odds. Today, I can look back at decades of amazing outcomes and success.
Choosing to follow my passion took me to the edge of my comfort zone and stretched me in every way possible. It also brought growth, joy and fulfillment into every area of my life. I wouldn't trade what I'm doing for the world, because I get to use my innate gifts daily. I love living in alignment with my purpose and my passion!
What is that one, wild dream you have buried deep within? Is it time to let it emerge into the light where you can nourish it into a passionate path to fulfillment? How will you know unless you try?
You can restore passion for your life.
Start voicing your inner dreams and passions. Face down your fears, and treat your dreams like tender threads of gold, for they are every bit as precious. They form the fabric that fabulous lives are woven from!
5 THINGS THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE
By Nandita Gupta
There is no magic wand in this world of harsh reality which can completely transform your life. There are small bits and pieces that one individual has to do in order make this life to be worthy and satisfactory. We see many influencers and youtubers over the internet and makes this prescription that how fortunate and calm these people actually are. But being calm and composed is not only their cup of tea, even anyone can take a path to change their life, it requires just a little bit of hardwork and anticipation towards doing things that you must. Down below are the few things that you need to start doing now in order to pursue a life that you wanted.
Listening to podcasts
Many people have this courage and audacity to read those gigantic books which are good down the line. But for those who do not have time to sit and read, for them there is this thing going popular around the block called" podcasts". Podcasts are nothing but the audio version of video files and are the series of episodes of famous interviews, books and many more things. Download your referred series and listen to it while travelling or while doing any chore. Listening to the famous person's interviews and successful entrepreneur's story will give you more positivity and meaning towards life.
Solo Trip around the Places Which You Desire to See
We people have been chained in a system, where we worship dependency on others majority of times to do even a basic task like going or visiting nearby places. Who said you can't step out of the home without any company. Go try the new places like café around your locality, watch a movie, try a new theatre or maybe sightsee the famous monuments that are drawn in your history books. Who said your trips has to start with bigger things, try taking a stroll in a park alone daily and see the difference. This will completely help you to get ahead in your life peacefully and give you more courage to get out of your comfort zone.
Learn Everyday Something New
Is there any passion or activity you love to do? If yes, then go on and learn about it in a detailed manner. The passion no matter how big or small is if it is your go-to thing, then go ahead. Make a promise to learn each day something new, whether it is cooking or forms of dance. You will inherit that positivity and confidence that no other regular doing can provide you. Be your boss and learn whatever drives you or motivates you to live each day.
Get Up and Dress Up
Who said you can dress well for big occasions only, why can't you dress up each day for cheering towards the life that you wanted to live. Dressing doesn't have to mean roaming around the house in tuxedos or ties. It means dressing up clothes that makes you feel pumped up. Wear a nice scent and experiment with your styling and then go do the daily task. The amount of confidence and love you will receive towards your body will ultimately quench your soul only.
No matter how big you become, you should be thankful to your life and must owe this life which taught you so many things and gave reasons to live. Pay gratitude to things that came your way no matter positive or negative, they came for a reason. Try putting this gesture and see how negativity will be blown out from your life.
You do not have to be big enough to live a leading life, you need to make your life big enough to let you live.
LIVING A PRECIOUS LIFE
By Liah Howard
I spoke with a friend this morning. She explained to me that she likes to fantasize about being free of her physical body and soaring effortlessly in the etheric realms. She sounded bored with her life and over whelmed with the responsibilities of her day- to- day existence. She wistfully described her longing to be free of all the emotional pain, boredom and the numerous duties associated with being in human form. I listened with an open heart and mind, and thought to myself, how very sad that my friend is missing the magic of each moment and the surprises that life can bring.
I reflected on our conversation and realized that she must be overwhelmed with the prospect of her life continuing to be the way that it is now and always being stuck in the grind. Although from the outside her life looks pretty successful. She works in the helping profession, has a devoted husband, good health and owns her own home. Nevertheless, she is unhappy with the monotony of paying bills, cleaning house and being a good wife. The boredom of her daily routine seems unbearable. She has lost the spark of remembering the preciousness of each moment. How I wondered, can she regain her enthusiasm for living?
Then three words starting with the letter 'p' popped into my head. I heard my higher self say "Purpose, passion and play are the ways to counteract boredom and being overly responsible and create a solution to living life in a more meaningful way. When a person aligns their work with their core values then there is a special grace that happens as they do their work. For example, if somebody values helping the Earth and they work in a field that prevents pollution then they are living an inspired purposeful life through their work. On the other hand, if a person values caring for the Earth and they work in a field that harms Mother Earth, then they will most likely feel depleted and drained from their work and lack a sense of purpose.
Next, if there is passion connected to how one spends their time in life time in life, then they will feel life becomes more valuable and significant. Passion carries a quality of putting ambition into action with heart. In other words, if you are excited about what you are doing and are willing to go the extra mile to sacrifice whatever it takes to get the job well done then you are living passionately. For example, the writer who stays up until the wee hours of the morning because they are so inspired by the written word coming through them that they sacrifice sleep for passion.The opposite would be the person who dreads going to work and feels tired and weary of their job so much so that they can barely get up in the morning.
Finally, the third remedy to boredom and over work is play. Having a playful approach to one's duties and responsibilities brings a fresh outlook. When a person takes time to balance play and enjoying themselves with the duties of life, then they come alive and reconnect with their joyful nature buried within. A simple solution like going to see a funny movie or enjoying an improve comedy night could be the anecdote to the doldrums of an overly responsible life. When one takes time to nurture their playful child within, they are less resentful of the adult responsibilities of living and more able to cope with the day- to- day stresses of life.
I called my friend back and invited her to consider the possibility that life is offering her an opportunity to make new choices. I reminded her that her passion is important and her purpose of helping humanity is still pure and can be resurrected in her work. I also suggested she take time to play and plan some joyful activities into her life. The magic of life is so much more fun when shared with a friend and life can be full of happy surprises when we remember how precious life is.
PROCRASTINATING? TRY THIS SIMPLE FORMULA
By Kevin Schoeninger
Do you have those days when you just aren't motivated or inspired to follow through on your good intentions? You're lethargic, stuck in procrastination, and just can't seem to get started. On days when I don't feel like meditating, exercising, writing, cooking healthy food, or doing anything I really need/want to do, I've found a simple formula to get me going: low expectations and an easy warm-up.
I start with low expectations by telling myself, "If I do a little, that's good for today." I usually define "a little" as half or less of what I might normally do. For example, with exercise, it might be 10 minutes of cardio, instead of 30, and one set of 5 strength exercises, instead of two sets of ten exercises. With writing, I tell myself I'll just write a paragraph or two. Because I've done more in the past, I know this lesser amount will be easy.
With my low expectations in place, I start with an even easier warm-up, something that feels like nothing at all. For exercise, I just start moving. This could be a walk or riding a stationary bike with little resistance. If I'm writing, I start with one sentence of any quality. I just get something written down.
Once I've gotten myself moving in this small, easy way, I often find the internal juices start to flow. With exercise, I begin to breathe a little deeper, feel a little looser, and my energy increases. With writing, ideas come to mind, associations click in, and I often find myself in the flow.
Invariably, I exceed my low expectations and end up feeling good about my efforts. I remember why I wanted to do what I'm doing. It feels good. It's taking me somewhere I want to go. It helps me feel productive, purposeful, and alive! At this moment of feeling good, make sure you record this experience in your memory. Then, you can recall this positive feeling of "being in the flow" to support you to get going the next time.
Now, if I do a little exercise and a little writing every day, it's easier to stay in the flow. It's easier to be consistent with a small doable action. That's the power of having an intentional daily practice to grow something that's important to you-be it your health, relationships, business, art, or spiritual growth. Small consistent actions are the building blocks of big accomplishments. They're the key to deeper meaning, purpose, and productivity.
And, if I just don't feel like taking action--if I find myself procrastinating--I go back to my low expectations and easy warmup to get me going. If getting started is the hard part, make getting started as easy as possible.
By Vijaya Krishna Boddu
Self-Motivation is a very important activity in our day to day life as we don't know what surprise will come and at what time.
We have to motivate ourselves to ensure that the surprise is being handled appropriately and WE SHOULD NEVER GIVE UP. Even though the surprises are common to everyone lives and every one motivate them to handle their surprises and take it forward.
We have to motivate ourselves to ensure that the surprise is being handled efficiently and functionally. We attempt through our article, to share ancient ideas and techniques to walk you through this journey of life surprises.
Hence, we have to understand that some of the important surprises & techniques to self-motivate in handling the surprises.
1) Financial Surprises: Generally, the companies or individuals will have a budget, unfortunately, the days may not go with the same budget planning. There may be a surprise in increase or decrease of the budget. This in turn, disturbs the financials. For projects in a company, the financial surprises can be corrected through appropriate contracts & claims management and for individuals it can be corrected through self-motivation techniques.
2) Health Surprises: Health issues may come up at any time which we cannot anticipate. We always should maintain discipline in our food habits, do daily exercises and drink appropriate water, which may avoid the health surprises.
Any surprise or any issue can be corrected through self-motivation techniques as mentioned below:
1) Firstly, we should analyze in depth about the surprise or the issue. We have to make a note point on WHAT, HOW & WHY. By answering these simple three words we can understand the reason for the surprise or the issue.
a. WHAT: What happened?
b. HOW: How it happened? How it went wrong.
c. WHY: Why this happened? What are the corrections?
2) Secondly, doing meditation and thinking on the solution for the surprise or the issue. In this way, we can get the solution and go forward.
3) Once we answer the What, How & Why, and for corrections, we should do meditation by taking a deep breath and concentrating on the breath and thinking on the corrections.
4) We have to continue the meditation till we find out the solution. Depending on the surprise, sometimes, we will find the solution in 2 - 3 times and sometimes it may take days.
5) We should NEVER GIVE UP and we should continue the meditation till we get the solution and certainly we will get the solution through meditation for any issue/surprise/problem.
6) After having a solution, we have to make a clear roadmap for solving the surprise or issue with a contingency plan.
7) Finally, we should always follow another 3-word principle, Plan, Check and Act, this 3-word principle can ensure to resolve the surprise or issue.
1) Generally, we face several problems in our day to day activities and we get panic or scared on an occurrence of such problems.
2) If we follow the techniques as mentioned above without getting panic or getting scared, we can easily resolve such problems by finding solutions and we can go forward in our lives and achieve success.
3) This article is to support the reader in addressing their problems/issues/surprises in an appropriate manner without getting panic or getting scared.
4) We request you to share this article after going through as this may help your friends to overcome their problems/issues/surprises.
5) All views or opinions or statements given in this Article are personal, which are in our knowledge/ information and do not signify any professional advice.
60+ GOOD MORNING MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES
By Abdulmalik A Sanni
Morning is the early part of the day; it is also referred to as the time when the sun rises until noon. It can also be further defined as the period of time between midnight and noon. If you check this time or period in which the morning time falls in, you will realize that mostly the body system of every human is at the start of its rise. This very time is one of the best periods in which it is universally recommended that we should extend our feelings to those we love so much.
It is now high time that we begin to text our loved ones these fantastic messages in order to show them how much they mean to us. Has the story of our article titled "What is the meaning of love and romantic love quotes" reached you? What about 60+ romantic good morning text for him? Howdy... please enjoy this latest one.
Good morning inspirational quotes
- Every day is a new opportunity to achieve what we have missed the previous days. It is a great joy to wake up early in the morning to see the light of a fresh morning time.
- You will not achieve great things in life until you begin to understand that it takes your determination for God to bless your hustles. Always remember that God is not a supporter of the lazy ones. Good morning!
- Hello, friend I hope you had a sweet dream yesterday? This is the beginning of a new day for every successful person. Always do your best to become the best in everything you are doing. Good morning!
- The most successful people are those ble life has been created.
- The best of the people are those who believe in what they can do and never for once get discouraged by what the negative people say. They are very good at what they believe in because they work hard to know it better.
- Always find a reason to put smile on your face, the brightness of your face signifies that you have no grudges with anyone. Have a blessed morning!
- It is a good thought to always have confidence in ourselves. The most intelligent man on earth have one thing in common with you; ability to think and apply wisdom.
- Good morning my best friend, I just want to greet you with this piece of advice; be consistent in whatever you are doing, never lost hope and always be focus.
- I hope you had a fantastic night rest? Rise up and go out to do the needful, every good person have a lot of story to tell about patience. Good morning!
- I am pleased to tell you that, those who ignore themselves are the most bankrupt people I have ever met in life; try and love yourself by doing the right thing at the right time.
Good morning breakfast quotes
- I hope you have taken your breakfast? It is a fuel for the stomach of great people. It gives you energy to do the necessary things at work.
- Whenever you intend to be smart at work, always take your breakfast so that you can be strong to deliver the best of your work.
- I love the breakfast so much because it gives me a reason to love myself and the early morning. I recommend that you shouldn't joke with your breakfast because it is healthy.
- Love yourself by replenishing your body worn-out tissue through rich food. Breakfast is never a last option. Good morning!
- Feel good about yourself and be organized at anything you are doing. Never forget one thing-breakfast, it is very important to start your day with it. Good morning!
- Always fill your stomach with the best of recommended food in the morning-it brings energy to your body for good performance at work.
- I smile a lot in the morning and the reason is because I never joke with my breakfast. Do not delay your breakfast.
- The reason why I am shining is because I eat my breakfast in time, I never delay it because it is great for a brighter day ahead. Good morning!
- Who else can compete with you at work if not a smiling face? Remember that a hungry man is an angry man. Put smile on your face by eating your breakfast.
- Taking of breakfast before going for work is great because it calms your head down and makes your body humble to do work.
Good morning health quotes
- Health is wealth; always take care of yourself and the family so as to avoid sickness. Keep your environment clean always. Good morning!
- A happy home is a home that is always clean and free of germs. Encourage the cleaning of your environment all the time to save more money. Good morning!
- A home that is free of sickness is mostly free of sorrow; always find a way to prevent air pollution around your environment. Good morning!
- The best and the smartest people on health are always healthy; they take their drug as prescribed regularly and make some aerobic to boost their immune system.
- Always stay in a clean environment free of diseases and germs. The wealthy ones constantly avoid contamination.
- I am healthy and fresh today because I listen to what my Doctor says. I have a shining skin because I hear what my Dermatologist has to say.
- Good morning to you, I hope you had a wonderful night sleep? Please always empty your drainage and sleep with mosquito net. Remember, malaria kills?
- Be careful how you share sharp objects-or better still avoid the sharing of sharp objects to prevent yourself and your family from HIV-AIDS.
- Always go for medical check as described by your family Doctor. Sometimes, small issues about our health status may develop into unbearable issues.
- Take your drugs as prescribed by your Doctor, never engage in drug abuse. Those who are careful about their health live healthy.
Good morning prayer for a friend
- This morning is a special period for the acceptance of prayers. I am begging God at this moment to bless you with an everlasting grace. Good morning!
- Every day comes with a special opportunity for us to embrace; I beseech the Lord to bring the grace of the opportunity to your way.
- The sun rises and sets by the power of the Lord, I pray that the Lord should uplift you this year and stops you from falling down forever.
- It is my pleasure to show you how much you mean to me. I pray that your entire desires in life be settled for good. May your day last with permanent joy.
- You are a great person and as such may the Lord give you a wonderful breakthrough in life; I ask the Lord to bless you.
- It is not always easy to move on in life with poverty, may the Lord enrich your pocket from this moment until the end of time. Good morning!
- I beseech the Lord to grant you all your heart desires and bless you with endless joy. I ask the Lord to fill your home with light and continue to bless you with righteous children. Good morning!
- Every day is an opportunity to get great things done in life, may the Lord open the way for your success I this blessed month. Good morning!
- No one understands how coconut got its water, may the Lord keep your secret away from the wrong people and give you maximum protection for the rest of your life.
- Love yourself and always find a reason to put smile on your face all the time. I pray that the Lord should ease your affairs in life-good morning!
Sweet and cute good morning sayings
- The early bird is never disappointed, because it takes its time to go early to the place of opportunity and explore more food than the lazy birds, good morning!
- The brightness of the day is shining for you to have a reason to put smile on your face. You are a special star so always put smile on your face.
- Have a splendid morning time because it gives a special reason to do the right things that matters. Take good care of yourself. Good morning!
- Life is a wonderful place to live and morning time is an opportunity to praise the Lord for waking you up to the brightness of the day. I just want to say, god morning!
- Live your life and the awaiting opportunities will find your pant down. You must understand that everything about this life demands determination to achieve.
- Be the best you want to be and always understand that you can become whatever you want to be. You are a champion; never think that everything is impossible. The one who wins is the one who thinks he can.
- The day is bright and shining promising a fulfilled day ahead. You are a wonderful person so always be strong to carry out your work in life.
- The smiling face did not just begin; truly there are lots of stories behind it. No matter what happened always stay positive and never give up hope in life-verily, after adversity come prosperity.
- After the dawn comes the sunshine. After tears come joy and after stress comes health. You are as you think you are. So always stay focused and be optimistic in everything you are doing!
- When you wake up in the morning, find a reason to praise the Lord for bringing you back alive after a short death called sleep. The day is bright so enjoy yourself till you never can enjoy it again.
Good morning coffee quotes for him or her
- Morning coffee is sweet begins it warms the body and boost your memory to perform better jobs. I hope you have sipped a cup of coffee today?
- I love the coffee cup because in it is a coffee itself. It gives me a sound energy to want to work all through the day.
- Cup of coffee on my table, three slices of bread on my tray. I love myself so I love taking the best food in the world.
- You are so special so I am advising that you should never forget to take a cup of coffee. Feel free to do your work because the coffee will still do its own. Good morning!
- ..Tasting great! I love the coffee. It is my good friend and I start a great day with it. You are missing dude, hope you will try it one day? Good morning!
- You must know that those who take coffee are the special ones. Why not sign up on coffee squad and get your job done as soon as possible? Good morning!
- You have a great day ahead but without motivation and inspiration, you won't get it done as you want. Good morning!
- When you rise in the morning, give thanks to the Lord and get a cup of coffee to start your day. Meet me and let's go up to the ladder. Good morning!
- It is a new day, so relax your body with a cup of coffee before you start the early morning work. This gives you a nice reason to be happy. Good morning!
- Get up every morning and determine to do your best to achieve the best in life; have a cup of coffee and find joy in whatever you are doing. Good morning!
Wonderful good morning quotes for her
- Today is a new day, whatever you believe in, try and get it done as quickly as possible. Don't feel troubled about things that come your way, the truth is that you will always find solution to every problem. Have a wonderful morning!
- Feel good about yourself and always think critically before you comment. Always remember that the wise men hardly make mistakes. Good morning!
- Be good at your own end and always care about people around you-do not spoil people's heart with your speech and always find a way to always put smile on your face. Have a wonderful morning!
- Every morning is special, so take advantage of the opportunity that comes with it. It is my pleasure to say hello to you-have a wonderful morning.
- Plan your way to the top and set a goal that makes you lose patient to sleep in the night. You are a champion, so have a wonderful morning!
- Always start the day with a graceful smile, put all the past sorrow aside and face the challenges that come your way. Good morning!
- You are a bright angel so make every day count and never let every opportunity to pass you by. No matter how difficult a matter could be, when you send a longer time on it, it becomes easy.
- Good morning, I hope you had a splendid night? It is my pleasure to reach out to you. I just want to say, good morning!
- Every morning is a wonderful opportunity, grab it and feel good about yourself. No matter how bad the day may be, always stay strong. Good morning!
- Meeting you was nice and been your friend make everything more interesting. I hope you had a wonderful night? I am wishing you a wonderful morning!
HOW TO TURN LIFE'S LEMONS INTO LEMONADE
By Pierre Pinkerton
This article is a shift in terms of focus. Although relevant for the fields of business development and growth, the theme of this article is on personal development before business development.
I've always been a huge fan of sales gurus and personal growth experts like Zig Ziglar, Earl Nightingale, Norman Vincent Peale, Dale Carnegie, etc. While initially thinking these guys were full of 'it' and irrelevant; now, with time and experience having matured me to a reasonable level (I hope), I've come to not only attest to truths that these guys and others live by and teach, but also their beliefs and wisdom are very relevant and timeless.
One of the core truths taught and deeply ingrained into my subconscious is the following: failures in life will either strengthen and motivate you to grow and develop or they have the very real ability to break you down.
What do I mean when I say failures in life? Well, quite simply, these are the moments in our lives that the results and outcomes come totally different and often more severe than we had anticipated. Whether it's a job loss, divorce, eviction, bankruptcy, failed job interview, a blown investment, or being defrauded by someone, we all face these challenges at one time in life or another.
The key that I've learned about these negative life events is that you have A CHOICE in how you respond. The thing that keeps most of us in 'ruts' of negativity, isolation, and hopelessness is that we allow ourselves to be motivated by fear in a wrong way. Rather than thinking about how worse and severe a negative life event can become, why not choose to be motivated by the fear of the situation to take hold of hope. Choose to take a strong hold of hope and never let go no matter how bad it hurts or feels.
Now here's another underlying truth in being motivated by the fear of negative life events: don't labor your mind or put a heavy burden on yourself for solving your problems overnight; instead, relax, rest, and remain positive. What I've learned and continue to grow in is that more than likely the answer needed to resolve the problem(s) is right under your nose or floating somewhere in your mind. How do these 'uh huh' moments happen? Truly in the most odd ways possible to be completely honest. There's no secret formula (or at least one that I've found that works) or secret sauce that induces these moments, but here's one way to put yourself in the state of mind to increasing their frequency: relax, live life, serve others well, listen more than you speak, forgive completely, and love sincerely.
MAKING GOOD CHOICES
By Matt Collinson
Daily, our choices make us who we are. What, where and who we are is the sum of all those choices added together to right now. Now is such an important concept. Now is the only time that you have the chance to go out and get exactly what you are looking to achieve. There is no promise of tomorrow. To do this you must realize you have everything you need right now. Stop waiting for that something to happen because it never will until you make it happen.
Goals are meant to be achieved. This fruit that we bear because someone has dreamt. The way to achieve the goal is by going after the challenges. Decide that you are going to start today. The best way to do this is to build your mind. The best way to build your mind is to learn. Books, mentors, seminars, conferences and everyday life has a beautiful offering of ways to learn.
We are all given challenges. Those challenges are meant to be overcome. Know in your heart of hearts that you can achieve. These obstacles are the hard parts of life that become beautiful memories. Even in death. Think to someone you knew. When you think of them bring to the surface the great memories you have of them. Know those people that have come before wanting us to move forward in the best fashion. That means to live your life fully no matter what. Do not let their passing go unnoticed. You are perfect to know the lesson those people wanted to share with the world. Share their message.
Our actions will prove what direction that we want to go. Act. Think. Act again. Be the best that you can be. There are no more excuses to be sitting around. Are people calling you insane by your actions? Then you aren't succeeding unless that answer is yes. I enjoy acting. You will enjoy acting. We must put in the work together to become the person we know is inside.
Your dreams? Do you have dreams? Guess what? That dream is yours. Stop coming up with excuses. Write that book. Make that music. Build that company. Network until you make it happen. Invest everything you must become the person you want to become. Time, money and effort are only human thoughts. Do what you must to make your dream come into this life and humanity will thank you for it.
10 IDEAS TO HELP YOU STAY MOTIVATED
By Njanja Mathu Gakuru
I often wonder what motivates us to stay productive. It's one thing to produce a positive result and yet another to consistently repeat that positive action. Only motivation, which comes from two sources, can keep us consistent.
1. Our own internal drive, self-talk and attitude. How we speak to and treat ourselves affects what we are able to accomplish.
2. External influence from family, friends, leaders and other people we look up to or hold in high regard. The advice or guidance we receive from others affects what we feel about ourselves and our capabilities.
The question is, what direction does the motivation take us in? One that leads to positive, productive results or not. It is up to us to very intentionally make adjustments to what we allow into our thoughts/minds. We must make decisions about that kind of talk we entertain and learn to discard negative thoughts or words.
Below are 10 thought-provoking ideas I feel lead us in the right direction.
1. Showing up is largely a result of self-motivation.
Absolutely! If we don't motivate ourselves to get moving it's harder to show up or be present during our normal daily activities. Our motivation should discard any negative feelings that prevent us from showing up to meet our commitments.
2. A positive attitude fuels inner drive.
Try it! There's no doubt that when we're positive, we get more done with less effort.
3. There's power in words. We should speak positively about ourselves and others.
Words are powerful when used right they motivate and encourage. We must always consider the result or outcome of our words before we speak.
4. Self-discipline over a period of time yields desired results.
There are tougher challenges in pursuing self-discipline than we realize. The results however are powerful and priceless - let's stay focused.
5. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel no matter how long the tunnel.
There will be moments when we are tried and tested personally and professionally. We have to focus on where we need to be, our finish line, in order to stay motivated and productive while going through the tunnel.
6. We know we are motivated when we consistently go the extra mile.
Internal motivation coupled by the external push from supporters and those who cheer us on fuels us to keep going.
7. Creativity helps build confidence & ownership.
Thinking outside the box and curiosity drives us to greater heights.
8. To be productive and efficient we must stay informed.
Having the right information at the right time motivates us to pursue our goals. We must seek and desire to gain the knowledge consistently.
9. We experience greater satisfaction when our work speaks for itself.
Actions speak louder than words. The results of the action we take to back up our words keeps us motivated. "Well done is better than well said." ~Benjamin Franklin
10. We are motivated by leaders that are authentic and engaged.
It's important to form relationships and/or follow leaders that motivate us to be better. Strive for excellence.
GET UP AND DO SOMETHING
By Rosemarie Sumalinog Gonzales
Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time to come in our lives. Whether we like it or not, we, ourselves, are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek. Change starts within us right now, right at this very moment.
Change will happen when we do something different, a different outcome. Do something different from what you've already been doing. I know this is quite challenging because it's a matter of getting out of your comfort zone.
Well, do something different! Stop complaining and blaming others for what you've become today. Never blame your past, your parents, your boss or your partner. because you did not learn from your past circumstance. Stop blaming all together. You are responsible for your emotions and your life. Take control of your fate once and for all.
Are you ready for change? I've learned the past few years to actually get something out of life, whether it's in a career, relationship, or in any area. Work equals change and success. But you need to do something to make it happen.
If you want change, do something different. Don't just sit there and wait for a miracle to happen. Nothing of great value comes without great effort. Don't expect to get to the next level of your career without doing something productive. Show a great deal of commitment and dedication to your work. By doing so, you are able to feel a sense of achievement and a sense of fulfillment because you are able to do something worth doing well not only to yourself but to everyone concerned.
Life is not always easy. Work hard and persevere and you will realize that you are able to make a difference in your life. For example, if you find it difficult to survive your situation today, pray to God that He will you and do what you want to achieve in life. Your faith and action will help you realize your dream.
Our situations will not remain exactly the same throughout or lives. Sometimes situations are in our favor but other times it becomes really hard and seems to be endless. However, to ensure success in life, you need to turn difficult situations into a better one.
Difficult situations come into our lives sooner or later. You cannot find a successful person who can claim of not going through a difficult circumstances in their entire lives. The only difference is how they handle their dire situations to their own advantage.
In the face of rough situations, take it as a challenge and turn it into a better one and move closer to your desired goal. If you want to make your life successful, get up and do something.
We can transform our life and transform others as a result.
CHANGE OCCURS THROUGH YOUR EFFORTS
By Rosemarie Sumalinog Gonzales
Our attitudes define who we are. They are subject to change by social influences, as well as by the individual's motivation to maintain cognitive consistency when two attitudes or attitude and behavior conflict.
Real change occurs from the bottom up. It occurs from person to person, and in small groups and locales and then bubbles up and aggregates to larger vectors of change. It happens when a person exerts an effort every single day of his life. If you want a change to happen in your life. Change your attitude.
We embrace change, yet something in our nature fiercely resists it. We structure social movements, political campaigns and business strategies around the need for change, yet we hardly understand how it works.
When it comes to a change in behavior based on consequences, such as an individual's hopes to gain rewards or avoid punishment from another group or person, it is called compliance. It doesn't mean that there is a change in beliefs or attitude but rather is influenced by the social outcomes of adopting a change in behavior.
The individual adopts the new attitude, not due to the specific content of the attitude object, but because it is associated with the desired relationship. Often, children's attitudes on race or their political party affiliations are adopted from their parents' attitudes and beliefs.
On the other hand, personality is not a perfect predictor of behavior. People tend to become more responsible and emotionally stable as they age. These changes generally unfold over many years and seem to reflect a natural developmental process.
There are things about yourself that you don't like. So you change them. It's more likely that you keep on doing them, even though you say you'd like to change them. you can't just snap your fingers and stop the well-established patterns of behavior, even when those patterns result in bad consequences.
Change is a process that begins with being aware of yourself. If you're used to blaming everyone else for your problems, then you're not aware of the consequence of your actions. If you're living your life in a daze, blaming bad luck, then you're in denial because you based your good fortune on fate. You can be fully aware of your bad habits and still not change because you lack the sense of commitment.
You need to have self-discipline, perseverance, and hard work. Know the reason for your change of behavior and what you want to be. Your actions need to adhere to your beliefs. You know it makes no sense claiming you want to change but then doing nothing about it. You are just disappointing yourself. You're fed up with feeling frustrated.
Adopting new ways rarely comes comfortably at first. You may feel a lot of resistance to change but when you realize that change is needed as an opportunity to grow, not as an unwanted burden, amazing things can happen.
Even small changes can reap meaningful benefits especially when it is in a positive direction, it will not only expand your confidence but also enrich your relationships, enhance your career, and empower your well-being.
People do change if not for the better then some change for the worst. If you modify your behavior, then that's changing for the better.
FIGHT OFF ENEMIES BY BECOMING MORE SUCCESSFUL
By Stanley Thomas
If you have a great reputation in your community how can you protect it from those who wish to defame you? Success is hard to get and the last thing you want is for some person to take it from you. If someone attacks you with a negative statement to make you look bad how do you fight back? There is a simple solution to this problem.
What you can do is wait for the attacker to stop attacking. Then go on the offensive. This works very well when something bad happens to the person who attacked you. This is when you let them have it. However there is a better solution to this problem.
Instead of attacking the person back directly or indirectly what you can do is simply become more successful at what you do. You have to be better than
the competition. You have to be bigger than the enemies who wish to destroy you. If your reputation is larger than your rivals then their voice does not matter as much as yours. You have to defeat your enemies by becoming more successful at what you do than your enemies are at what they do.
You have to push yourself out there so far ahead of your enemies that they cannot catch up with you. By becoming more successful a large number of people know about you as a highly successful person. Your enemies cannot keep up with you because they are way too small to persuade the public against you. When you grow bigger your enemies will look small and petty.
There is board game called go. It is different from the game chess. In the game go the objective is to dominate the board by taking up the most space on the game board. In life successful people dominate the public perception of them. The more success a person has and the more well-known the successful person is the more protected this person is from their enemies.
Have you noticed how hard it is to criticize a highly successful and popular person and get away with it. Some people have such a good reputation that you would look like a fool criticizing this person. That's The Power of success and a big reputation. Superstars are more well-known than critics. A critic tries to make a name for himself by attacking someone who is highly successful.
Like the old saying goes, there has never been a statute erected to a critic. So keep on pushing and keep on striving for higher Heights. That way you will leave your enemies in the dust.
HOW TO SPEED UP YOUR RESULTS
By Remy Chausse
Do you ever find yourself in limbo... in that in-between place of knowing what you want, but it hasn't shown up yet? There's something you're trying to create, but the universe seems to be moving at a snail's pace. In that place between what you want, and waiting for its arrival, you often find yourself in doubt and indecision, and you sometimes end up feeling completely defeated.
Jackson Pruitt is a finance manager for a luxury auto dealership, and he was in exactly this type of situation. Not only is he naturally goal-oriented having been in sales most of his life, but financial targets are routinely encouraged for him at work. Walking the tight rope of what he wants to create and how he can speed up the process is a common theme for him (and anyone in sales or entrepreneurship).
Before talking about how we can speed things up, it helps to understand the anatomy of how things are manifested, so that we can unlock our hidden power and bring what we want to fruition.
This understanding begins with the knowledge there are two kinds of reality... vibrational reality and physical reality. The moment we crystallize an idea or a goal, it moves into vibrational reality. We might also call this the pool of possibilities... a holding tank... or a spiritual vault.
The point is, yes, there's a physical reality in things that we can see, and touch, and feel. But our manifestations are created in vibrational reality first, before they manifest into a physical experience.
So how do we speed up our results? Well, the first thing we have to do is put our desire into vibrational reality. And this is exactly what Jackson did. He began with a simple, clear thought about his desire.
Here's the anatomy of how things go from desire to manifestation:
Thoughts create reality.
It's an exact science.
And failure is impossible.
So think only thoughts of your desired outcome.
Our thoughts create a concept of what we want. When we think that thought, it instantly crystallizes in vibrational reality. Our only job at that point is to allow our desires to come TO us.
HOW DO YOU WANT TO BE REMEMBERED?
By Tim Connor
Please - I'm not being morbid - just asking a simple question.
Trust me - the years pass much more quickly than most people realize or are willing to accept. I don't care your chronological age as that is not the determining fact as to when you will check out of here so back to my question - How do you want to be remembered after you are gone?
First of all, who remembers us and why depends on many factors; our relationships (family, kids, siblings etc.), careers (customers, fellow workers, bosses etc.), where we lived (neighbors, friends, acquaintances etc.), and yes even a few total strangers that might have crossed our paths quickly and briefly.
Then there are our actions (things done and not done), behaviors (good, bad, stupid, thoughtful, selfish, kind, egotistical, compassionate etc.).
And of course, there are our words (things said and not said, kind words or hurtful words etc.).
And how about our beliefs attitudes, prejudices and opinions (did we always have to be right or could we accept mistakes, were we always talking, or did we ever listen and care, could we disagree without anger or validate others for who they were, did we live with a spiritual foundation or did we assume there is no God etc.).
Yes, there's one more - our goals, desires, dreams, and plans. Did we include others or exclude them, did we rely on others or did we always go it alone, did we give credit when it was due or always keep it for our selves, did we share our victories or assume we deserved all the benefits regardless of other's guidance etc?
OK, I hope I have made my point - there are numerous factors to who will or will not remember us, why they will or will not remember us and what they will remember us for - if they do.
I'm going to generalize a bit so hang in there with me.
There is an ancient Native American legend that states 'you will only get into Heaven leaning on the shoulders of someone you helped while you were on earth.'
Regardless of your opinion of this statement consider - if you helped no one in any way - what are your chances? If you helped one hundred people - go for it.
As I go through my last life chapter I have spent a lot of time considering this question and is it too late to change what those who were in my life - for many years or even a few minutes - will remember about me or even care.
Ever wondered how many people will attend your funeral? Full house or a lot of empty seats?
You've heard it I'm sure - It's never too late to make a new first impression. Does this rule also apply - It's never too late to change your legacy? I don't have a clue but what I do know is how you live your life while you are here become the guidelines for your legacy or how, why, if, when etc. you will be remembered.
I'm not referring here to all those famous folks like - Billy Graham, Mother Teresa, Babe Ruth or Henry Ford etc. I'm talking about us normal folks who are doing our best to live a life of dignity, happiness, success, compassion, and love rather than fame and fortune.
So, here's a thought - make a list of all the people in your life that matter - current or past, relatives or friends - get it - anyone or everyone. Now, write down the words that you think each one of them might use to describe you, your legacy or what you meant to them while you shared life with them if they were giving your eulogy. Got the courage to do this? If no, why not? If yes, go for it.
And here's a final thought if you can handle it. Now share the words, memories etc. you wrote down with each person and ask them for their response (agree, disagree, like, don't like etc.).
SO MUCH OF LIFE IS WASTED - WAITING
By Tim Connor
Waiting for the right job. Waiting for the perfect relationship. Waiting for the right weather. And, even just waiting for the right email or text response.
Ever waited for something and in hindsight realized how much time was wasted? I know I have and I also know the pain of not being able to recapture those lost minutes, weeks or even years - they were gone forever. But it's not my intent to be morbid here but to suggest some creative, positive and even risky thoughts on what lies ahead, what is real, what you can control and what can or will elude you no matter how hard you try or how long you wait.
First of all, there are three types of waiting - waiting for something to begin, waiting for something to end, or waiting for something to improve, change or maybe even recover.
But regardless of the waiting or what we may be waiting for the consequences are always the same - frustration, disappointment, regret, fear, and even anger and yes, even more, depending on the magnitude or significance of what we are waiting for.
Waiting for Mr. or Ms. right until you are in your seventies is not a wise move. Waiting for the right career position after bouncing from job to job for twenty years might get in the way of the right one showing up. Waiting years for a bad relationship to end or for the other person to end it when you both know it isn't or wasn't meant to be or was not a wise decision you previously made can cause a lot of stress, resentment, and bitterness. Waiting for your kids to finally get the concept of responsibility? Waiting for your employees to finally have some respect, loyalty or motivation?
Waiting till you retire for the vacation of a lifetime? And then your partner dies before you get to go.
Waiting for decades for a promotion, recognition or raise - well maybe it's time for a change. Waiting to really live and have fun until you win the lottery, well, you might want to re-think your life purpose. Waiting weeks or even months for the right client or customer to show up - well you might want to rethink your sales or marketing strategies.
Need more examples or have I made my point?
Having said all of the above I want to be clear that I am not against waiting - for the right reasons, for the appropriate amount of time or for the right, best or suitable outcomes.
Are there common emotions, expectations or attitudes that can contribute to a waiting mentality? From my experience, I believe there are ten major ones; hope, fear, desire, insecurity, self-esteem, ego needs, impatience, the need for control, dreams and or arrogance. I don't have the time and I'm sure you don't either for me to dig into each of these in detail so let me see if I can give you a few summary points to consider if you have been guilty of unnecessary waiting, are waiting for something now or will, notice I said will and not might, wait for something in the future.
As I see it there are three common denominators in all of the above reasons, mindsets or rationales; 1) insecurity - or the need for approval, the need for acceptance, a mindset of unworthiness or conflict avoidance. 2) fear - or the willingness to face reality, uncertainty or unknowns in a common sense or reality-based way. 3) Ego - or an unhealthy definition of what you feel you deserve, you are worth, you are worthy of or you don't deserve.
In the end, waiting in most situations is life wasted. The current lifespan average of Americans is 77.3 years. So, regardless of your age whether you are wasting days, weeks, months or years, in the end, will leave you with memories of regret, resentment, apathy and or disappointment.
Is it worth it? Was it worth it? For me, looking back, in some cases it was, and, in most cases, it wasn't, but that's me.
Here are a few things to consider if you are a "waiter".
-Create a list of potential gains and losses for whatever you are waiting for. Then weigh them appropriately for both the short and long term.
-Talk with people you respect who have had similar experiences or have insight into what you are considering waiting for and ask them for guidance. You don't have to follow it, but it can help you make better decisions.
-Start a decision journal and start keeping track of every decision you have made and their outcomes or consequences and I'm not referring here to where you decide to go to lunch or what color dress to buy.
-Meditate on all major decisions and listen to your inner guidance system's or spirit's suggestions or inclinations or whatever you want to call it.
-Keep a list of all major life decisions and their eventual outcomes - if and when they ended; like a business, career, job or relationship.
-Don't make choices or take actions while under stress or emotional unrest.
-Be willing to admit mistakes.
-Learn to learn from everything regardless of the outcome whether positive or negative.
-Declare emotional endings before starting new beginnings.
-Read the book - Transitions by William Bridges.
-Pray about it.
These should get you started and, on the way, to better outcomes and less wasted time and life. I can only say in conclusion that I wish I had done many of these earlier in life.
WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT ENTREPRENEURSHIP?
By Stephanie Harbin
The Bible says a lot about entrepreneurship. So, if you're thinking about becoming an entrepreneur, take heed. This article covers some of what it says about launching, growing, and maintaining a successful enterprise.
What the Bible Says
- Count the costs.
Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won't you sit down first to estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it (Luke 14:28)? Simply put, count the cost before you launch. Know what it takes. Do you have enough funds? What do you need to get started? What is the cost for supplies? Services? Overhead? How long can you survive without a salary?
Moreover, counting the costs involves taking stock of your ability to persevere and make sacrifices. Building a business takes commitment and faith. Contrary to what you've heard, overnight success is rare. So, count the costs before you leap. You're in it for the long haul.
- Timing is key.
To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven (Ecclesiastes 3:1). Like any endeavor, in business timing is everything. Is this the season for you to pursue a business? Is the timing ripe for expanding or delving into a new arena?
- Seek wisdom.
Get wisdom; develop good judgment. Don't forget my words or turn away from them (Proverbs 4:5). All in all, wisdom is knowing the right thing to do. Conrad Hilton, for example, prayed before making all business deals; he physically went to the property being considered (to be alone and hear from God).
- Know the source of your wealth.
Remember the Lord your God. He is the one who gives you power to be successful in order to fulfill the covenant he confirmed to your ancestors with an oath (Deuteronomy 8:18). When you succeed, don't forget the Creator. Furthermore, the fortune is not just for you; the money has a mission. Save some, spend some, and give some.
- Get a team of advisors.
Every purpose is established by counsel; and with good advice make war (Proverbs 20:18). At length, you will need the expertise of skilled advisors ( an attorney, an accountant, and an insurance agent). They're key to establishing, monitoring, and protecting the operation.
- Develop a spirit of excellence.
Not slothful in business; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord (Romans 12:11). Either give it your all or walk away. This mindset will keep you committed to giving everything your best.
- Sharpen your people skills.
Be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger (James 1:19). Customers, workers, vendors, and colleagues will say or do something that rubs you the wrong way. Instead of reacting, shake it off. Anger clouds your judgment.
- Avoid panic.
Be anxious for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be known unto God. And the peace of God which passeth all understanding will keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6-8). Never make decisions when you're anxious or emotionally drained. Both breed confusion; this births desperation and regret.
- Be diligent.
Do you see someone skilled in his work? They will serve before kings; they will not serve before officials of low rank (Proverbs 22:29). Being diligent in business brings rewards (more business, contracts, contacts, exposure, unique opportunities, recognition, honor, etc.).
- Stay motivated.
I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me (Philippians 4:13). You will have good days and bad days. Therefore, remember that you have help and the resolve despite the circumstances.
VALUES BASED SUCCESS - WHY IS IT IMPORTANT?
By W Timothy Johnson
Values Based Success is about creating change in your life based on the Values that are important to you. Your Values are the foundation of the results that you get in life, so you need to choose Values that are truly important to you, not others. You need to craft a plan that supports those Values.
So why is that important?
If our Values are the foundation of our results it would seem that we always get what we Value in life. That's sort of true. We get results that spring from the things we Value right now. What I mean is that there's a hierarchy of Values that we all have. Some are more important than others. In an ideal world, we wouldn't violate higher Values for lower Values. Generally that's true. Sometimes, we're selfish and violate Values for selfish reasons or out of emotional outbursts. In that moment we Value our true Values less than being selfish or being emotional. We get results from those temporary changes in what's most important to us, even if we know it's not what we ultimately truly Value.
Values Based Success is about keeping us aware of our Values and living the life that results from those Values. We have to know what the Values are first though. We have to know what kind of life those Values lead to (Vision) and how we want to get there (Mission). From there we create the Roadmap that gets us to our Vision. That's our Goals and Action Plans.
All Success and all failure stems from how closely we align ourselves and our actions with our Values. Examine anyone who's succeeded or failed spectacularly. Successes are totally and radically aligned with their Values. They know them. Their Values drive them. They live them. Failures might know their Values but not likely. Or they let other people's Values be their foundation. Or they choose negative Values over positive Values. Failures don't align their lives and plans with positive Values that they own. Failures often wander without direction precisely because they don't know and understand their Values.
You might ask, what about people who seem to achieve Success, but are ruthless, negative, destructive people? Great question.
I submit that those types of people may have material or worldly gains, but not true Success. I believe true Success is unique to the individual and based on positive Values, not negative ones. Negative Values are often ones that have an implied phrase at the end, "at any cost." For example, wealth (at any cost) or attaining a certain standard of living (at any cost) or dominating a field or market (at any cost). These Values are perverted versions of positive Values.
Any Value that can be expressed in a selfish way or without regard to the harm done to others is a negative Value. We see these at work in all walks of life from personal relationships to professional to the political. We see it in the attitudes that show how some people believe they're inherently better than others. We see it in attitudes that show how some people take offense at anything no matter how small and are quick to anger and judgement.
Success based on positive Values by default will respect others, pursue results that don't violate your other Values or violate the rights and dignity of other people. It doesn't mean we can't desire to be rich or have a great lifestyle. The question is what do you have to do get there? How does that fit in with the things and ideals that are important to you? How do you serve your family, community, colleagues, customers or employees to get there?
That's what Values Based Success helps you find out. That's what it keeps you striving for, to be a positive influence in your own life, your family's, you community and in the lives of everyone you meet.
THE PAIN AND STUPIDITY OF COMPARISON
By Tim Connor
Many people's idea of success is nothing more than a comparison of them to others. And who do you think these folks compare themselves too - people; who are smarter, wealthier, happier, more attractive, more influential, or just better off in some way? I seriously doubt it. These folks, to feel better about themselves in some or in any area of their lives must look better than others. I know, because there was a time in my past when I was guilty of this stupid life philosophy.
Why do we care what other people think about us? Why do we need other's approval? Why are we afraid to show or share weakness, failure or inadequacies? Why do thousands of people every day add new "amazing" photos of themselves to social media sites? Is it only for approval, or due to insecurity or just an egotistical life approach OR, could it be all of these or even something else?
I went to one of my 'friends' social media pages (someone I do not know - so they are really a stranger) pages before writing this article and they had over 950 photos of themselves. Who has time for that? Who is interested in seeing all of them? No disrespect intended - but I just don't get it. Many single people (according to their profiles) routinely add numerous photos (mostly them at their best) every week. But a better question is - why the need? Does this approach make them feel - unconsciously or quietly in their own mind - better than others or are they just searching subtly for some type of acceptance? I am not judging but I can say that as long as you don't have your own self-approval or self-acceptance it's doubtful you will ever get enough of it from others.
Please understand - regardless of your wide circle of friends, your hundreds of social media connections and the thousands of people who you will meet in your lifetime - you will always find people who are better off than you are and worse off, better looking than you and uglier, poorer and richer, happier and sadder.
People who have a healthy self-esteem, like themselves or are real, tend not to need to compare themselves to others.
Success is not a comparison of you to someone who is less successful. If you must - success is a comparison of you and your past or present to your own potential.
Happiness is not about what you have, and others don't, but who you are -inside-out not outside-in.
Contentment, inner peace, and self-love are not about anyone else or anything else - it is simply an acceptance of who you are and where you are going where you have been and what you have. This does not imply that a lack of initiative, purpose, effort - whatever - is not required for what you want in life but what you want is up to you.
If you want to stay; poor, unhealthy, alone etc. - that is your choice but if you want something more or better in life, that's OK too - all I am suggesting is use your own standards, not someone's who has less or more.
It doesn't mean you wouldn't benefit from new skills or better attitudes, more learning or positive change, new lessons and new experiences.
So, in summary - what's the point or value of comparison? It's all about "you and what you have, what you know, what you are, what you believe, what you have accomplished, what you look like, who you know, etc. etc. etc. compared to someone or something else that is or has less."
If this is, you - is it working? Do you feel OK with who you are, where you have been, where you are going and what you have or own? Or, are you on a mission to - do more, have more, be more so you can finally be OK when you are compared to what others think or believe about you?
My life mantra is simple - I was not put on this earth for your approval. Like me, don't like me, approve of me or don't, judge me or don't - whatever - I don't care. I'm not perfect in any way and never will be. I am not famous and don't need to be. I could have more or better stuff, but I'm OK with what I have.
In the end - trust me - the only acceptance that really matters is your own of you.
YOUR LIFE'S REPORT CARD - HOW ARE YOU DOING?
By Tim Connor
Remember when you were in high school or even elementary school you used to get a report card every few months? If you behaved, did your homework and studied, you might have received a B or even an A.
But if you slacked off in some or every way you most likely had to explain to your parents why you got a D or even an F.
Basically, your grade was your teacher's opinion or rating of how they felt you were doing with your responsibilities, actions, and behaviors.
Think you are still getting report cards today when you are in your 30's or even your 60's? Oh, the teachers have most likely retired or have moved on to new classes and different students but trust me, life is still giving you a report card- every day, every month and yes, every year.
It might not be a piece of paper with a bunch of letters or numbers on it but believe me, you are still getting reviews on how the people in your life believe you are doing?
And who are these people? They are your; customers, bosses, spouses, kids, fellow employees and often even some of the strangers that pass through your life like; flight attendants, restaurant servers, mechanics or your physicians.
No, they all don't give you a written report, but they do evaluate - who you are, how you act, what you believe and even how you may treat them.
So, If I still have you, what kinds of grades do you think you are getting from; a spouse (not referring here to counselling sessions), your boss (and I'm not talking about your annual reviews), your kids (and I'm not talking about the grades they are getting in school or on the soccer field), your customers (and I'm not talking about how much money you might be making from them) or your family physician (and I'm not talking about your annual physical or check-up)?
Unfortunately, most people (and I'm including myself in this group) wait until they are failing at something or something just stops working before they make changes, attempt improvement, modify behavior or just admit that what they are doing is or will some day give them an F.
Let me give you an updated grading system that is a bit more relevant to life than the report cards you used to get. I call it My Life as it is Report card.
You are getting an A -
Notice I didn't include an A+ in this group? It's simple - none of us are perfect, we all have flaws, we all make mistakes and sooner or later we all fail at something. An A means you are exceeding life's expectations. You are learning, growing, maturing and recognizing life areas where you need further improvement. Your ego isn't running your life. Your arrogance is under control and your patience is not demanding you do something or everything faster, better and/or easier. Your need for control is under control. Your stress is not killing you. And your spiritual life is ruled by humility, peace, giving and compassion. Yes, there are a few more items that are contributing to your -
A - grade but in the end, the ones above are the primary factors that are saying to you - you are on the right path, keep going. But, be careful you don't lose the above items, or the consequences could be dramatic.
You are getting a B -
Take all of the above-mentioned items and just reduce the definition, for example.
You are learning, growing, maturing and recognizing life areas where you need further improvement, but you are not doing as much as you could or need to do. Your ego isn't running your life, but it has its moments depending on the person or situation. Your arrogance is not a serious issue, but it could be. Your lack of patience is often demonstrated by your hurrying or need to do something faster, better and/or easier. Your need for control is not under control. Your stress is not killing you yet but is having a negative impact on some area of your health, relationships or life in general. And your spiritual needs more time, attention, effort and/or better awareness.
You are getting a C -
A C means you are average in all of the above areas. You are not in serious trouble anywhere yet, but you are also not moving in the right or best life direction. If you don't make some changes soon - you could very quickly find yourself in the D or even F categories. It's time to wake up and recognize that life isn't easy, fast, accommodating or revolves around your needs, expectations or desires. It's time to grow up and it's time to let go of your "the world owes me" and/or your "selfie mindsets". This is a life crossroads where you can change direction in a positive or a more negative way and destructive way. You can begin to move into B territory and start getting better, stronger, wiser or healthier or you can wake up one day and realize you are failing, and it could be too late to change.
You are getting a D -
A D means you are heading towards disaster and time is running out. Make some changes soon or before you know it life will give you an F. And believe me an F can be costly, uncomfortable, painful and even deadly. A D says you still have some time to fix some things, but life is gradually losing its patience with you. It says, "I guess the only way we can get your attention at this time is with some kind of jolt, disaster or circumstance (a divorce, a bankruptcy, a heath attack or getting fired)." Don't wait too long - the pain of turning a life around at this stage can cause many people to stop trying or just give up entirely in life accepting the consequences of the next and final grade - an F.
You are getting an F -
An F means - you have failed and will spend a lot of time and your remaining life; alone, afraid, in regret, angry, resentful etc. It is now time to pay the price of all of your mistakes, failures and poor choices and behaviors. Can you recover? Of course. Can you rebound? Yes. Can you begin again? Always. Can you get a second chance? Yes. But at this stage, it will require a great deal of; humility, effort, surrender, admission, time, patience, hope and help and guidance from others. And, it will require accepting letting go of control of what life brings to you and the willingness to trust God during your return to sanity.
So, give yourself a grade today in; your finances, your marriage, your career, your business, your health, your social life, your relationships, your family and your spiritual direction and its beliefs, values, and actions.
HOW YOU CAN HANDLE DISTRACTIONS THAT GET IN THE WAY
By Kate Beeders
Right now, I'm sitting at my desk trying to write this blog. As use the word "trying" as Cali (my wonderful 4-legged child) is making that crying noise and distracting me from getting into my creative mode. What do I do? Telling her to stop crying will definitely not work. I can push through and ignore it or go over and play with her. Guess which wins?
Honestly, at first, I was kind of annoyed. After all, this was my time to write, and Cali was interrupting me. Doesn't she know that she's supposed to let me write? No, of course not, she's a dog. So, I went over and gave her attention and love. She then got quiet and went off to play.
How often do you start to do something and then something or someone else gets in the way?
It's especially worse when you have blocked off the time and are under deadline. When I was in Corporate, I used to push through all of this. Often, making myself miserable and even though the work would get completed, it was a struggle the entire way.
What I'm suggesting to you is that when this happens in the future and you get that distraction is to make a choice how to handle it.
Here are two steps that are critical for you to take:
1. Take a few deep breaths or a nice big yawn. This action will help you take space away from the situation and your thoughts.
2. Ask yourself how you want to approach this distraction. Do you want to ignore it, pay attention to it, move away from it? What do you choose? Sometimes the distraction is temporary and will go away quickly and sometimes it doesn't.
By taking those two steps, you'll be proactive instead of reactive. By reactive, I've seen people (and worked with these type of people) who have yelled, screamed or thrown things when they've had distractions. Basically, it's the feeling of being "powerless" and out of control which makes them act that way.
When you're able to take that step away and make your best decision, you'll be happier with your outcome and even more importantly, with the journey to get there.
By the way, when all is said and done, I wrote this content for you and I'm very pleased with it. Enjoy and let me know how it works for you.
YOUR VISION IS MAGNETIC
By Reeny Carvotta Barron
Your vision needs to be compelling and they need to pull you forward. In fact a big, juicy vision does just that. It pulls you toward the outcome you desire. You become excited and moved by it you think about it often and feel positive and motivated. This energy keeps the ball rolling. It literally starts to feel like you're being pulled down the path toward what is yours to do, to be and to have.
Your vision is visceral
Transition your vision and give it to the universe. The universe is lining up experiences, situations and people to feed into your big vision. Just waiting for your to imagine it. When you tap what is it you want, truly, and will see it and feel it. It becomes visually real and comes into being as a result. It's a universal law of experience. Desire it and the very fun of creation feels great. Very purposeful and just plain good.
Just because you get it figured out and experience wonderful energy of being pulled toward your vision, there will be miss-steps along the way. You'll have moments of confusion and moments of complete clarity. You'll sometimes get sidetracked. It's important to know this so that you can expect these things on your journey. Do not get thrown off when this happens. The tendency can feel uncertainty forever as it seems never to eventuate..
Even in the midst of pure clarity of site and purpose, you will get thrown off course. Remember it is part of the journey and temporary. Your big vision is still waiting. Something may need to be readjusted, or changed. The big picture of creating and realizing your vision is a process, not an event. Understanding this, even expecting it will help keep everything in perspective and keep you moving forward.
Vision with pure certainty and visualization create movement. Go after it! Remember people will want to put you down and stop you from succeeding. Sometimes even your friends could be jealous of your ambitions, often shutting you down our or criticizing you. Listening will sabotage your success.. Your internal vice says "why would you be doing this, when you have everything already". Shut these gremlins down.
Fix on your Vision - then plot your course!
What is it you truly want?
Knowledge is great though without feeling it is nothing. Make it happen - see it in techno-color, surround sound, 3D.
Visualizing will create a counter-message to that gremlin -shutting it down. I know it may sound silly in this context, but when you tap into these subconscious desires visually, with color, feelings of desire you will find over a period of time you are able to trust your ability to create and have more of what you want.
Reeny coaches individuals who are stuck, afraid, unsure, in transition, struggling with self-doubt, frustration, falling back to old patterns
Using techniques to awaken your heart and open your intuitive powers she guides individuals to embrace a soul aligned path to life that will bring greater joy, freedom, success, and inner peace.
SUCCESS LESSONS: WHAT GREEK TYCOON ARISTOTLE ONASSIS'S LIFE REVEALS
By George Kouloukis
Aristotle Onassis was born in 1906 in the Greek town of Smyrna (later occupied by Turkey). The few facts available regarding his childhood suggest that those years were rather difficult: he lost his mother when he was still a baby, and his father remarried a year and a half later. His relationship with his stepmother was extremely bad: they were in a state of continuous warfare, he regarded her as a usurper, and refused to obey her. At one point, the situation with his stepmother became so bad that the young boy was sent to a friendly neighbor's house to stay for a while. Also, his relationship with his father was not much better. A wealthy wholesale merchant in Smyrna, he was a strict father who was feared by his son.
As a result of these problems, Onassis mostly brought up by his grandmother. He also did poorly in school, which he entered at the age of seven in 1913. He did not like studying and constantly skipped class. He was also extremely disruptive and annoyed his classmates. As a result, he was expelled from all the schools he attended. His desperate father then wrote one of Aristo's teachers that he was contemplating "suicide because of that boy." Under those circumstances, it was not surprising that Onassis never finished his studies. When he took the final exams required for a high school diploma in 1922, he failed -and he never tried again.
The same year, the situation became even more difficult for him: the Turks invaded Onassis's town of Smyrna after defeating the Greek Army. Young Onassis -then 16- was caught up, as he would often recall later, in the disaster that followed. The Turkish Army swept the town from one side to the other for many days, killing, looting, and burning. Men and women were taken forcibly out of their homes and killed in the streets. Churches filled with refugees were covered with oil and set on fire, while people trying to come out were bayoneted on the church steps. When the mayhem ended five days later, about 120,000 Greeks had been lost. Smyrna was entirely destroyed.
Onassis's father gathered his family inside their home when the Turks entered the town and closed the doors and windows. Terrified, they watched the destruction through cracks in the walls. Their only source of income, the shop in the town, had been destroyed. On the fifth day, the Turks entered the house and arrested the father, leaving young Onassis as the only male there. The next day, Onassis took on the responsibility of rescuing his family. He went out into the chaotic streets of Smyrna, and there by chance he met the American vice-consul. With his intervention, the Onassis family was transferred immediately on a small boat to the nearby Greek island of Lesbos. But Onassis stayed behind to rescue his imprisoned father.
He soon managed to visit his father in prison, where he found him ill and distraught. When Onassis was leaving the prison, the Turks arrested him. But he managed to escape; terrified he ran to the vice-consul's office. The next day he was on his way to Lesbos -disguised as a sailor on an American warship. Three weeks later, the Onassis family arrived at the Greek port of Piraeus -as war refugees- in a miserable condition.
Onassis's father was later released and joined them. But the family's uprooting was, for young Onassis, an oppressive experience. Throughout the next year (1923) he had "a feeling of futility" -as he said later- and spent his days in Athens lonely and withdrawn. He didn't have any contact with his former classmates who'd also come to Greece, and he was not willing to get involved in any way in the business -tobacco trading- that his father had started under difficult circumstances.
In desperation, he got the idea to immigrate to the United States. But he could not obtain a visa, so as a second choice he decided on Argentina. Unfortunately his father was vehemently opposed, so much so that he refused to even give him the money for the tickets. Onassis was forced to ask some of his friends for a loan. He obtained an insignificant amount, and with it embarked on a risky venture. In August 1923, he departed from the Greek port of Piraeus, arriving a month later in Buenos Aires. He was only 17, clutched a torn suitcase, and was penniless.
His first priority was of course to find a job. He soon realized that wouldn't be easy. To keep himself alive, he had to wash dishes in restaurants and haul bricks on construction sites. Finally, in March 1924 he found a job at the Telephone Company of Buenos Aires as an electrician. Since he wasn't making enough money, he had to request the night shift, so that he could do another job during the day. This was not the Argentina Onassis had dreamed of.
But in 1925, Onassis's fate changed. As soon as he found a decent job, his next step was to work out a deal with his father so that he could start selling Greek tobacco in Argentina. Early in 1925 he began corresponding with his father and soon they'd repaired their relationship. Before long, he convinced his father to send him samples of high-quality Greek tobacco. With the samples in hand, Onassis started visiting the cigarette manufacturers of Argentina to try to sell them tobacco. He quickly received his first order, for $10,000. Since the quality of the tobacco was excellent, a second order followed soon, for $50,000. The orders came faster and faster. Onassis couldn't even find time to sleep. By May 1925 he had managed to put $25,000 in the bank -not bad for someone who had recently been penniless.
The same month, he quit his telephone company job and started a business of his own: he began manufacturing his own cigarettes -in the small room he was living in. That business was very successful, and soon Onassis started living the high life. He frequented music halls and clubs, and formed friendships with wealthy young men. Early in 1926, he moved out of the small room he had been living in and took a hotel suite in the most distinguished part of Buenos Aires. He also bought a car and took French and English lessons.
But the season was still "springtime": there are some rain showers, too. In the summer of 1929, the Greek government increased the import duties from countries with which it did not have commercial agreements by 1,000 percent. Argentina was among those countries and Onassis feared that Argentina would retaliate by increasing the import duties for the Greek products, making the trade of Greek tobacco impossible. He decided to return to Greece the same year (1929) to persuade the authorities to exempt Argentina from the increased duties. After a stormy discussion with the Greek Prime Minister, Onassis -then only 23- finally won the battle. The spring shower had passed.
Onassis's visit to Greece had another benefit: not only was he reunited with his family but the reunion had a touch of triumph. He was the successful son who had come back, the son who was sending money to the widows in the family for the educational expenses of their children. The reconciliation with his father, furthermore, was now complete. Returning to Argentina later in 1929, Onassis made his first foray into a field of activity that would eventually bring him staggering wealth: shipping. He bought a dilapidated 7,000-ton ship that was 25 years old.
But the great deal of money came from the tobacco trade. Between 1930 and 1931 he expanded the business to Cuba and Brazil. A year later, a new source of profits was added: the Greek government acknowledged his commercial potentials and appointed him the country's consul in Buenos Aires -at the age of 26. In that position, Onassis could now obtain foreign currency at official rates and resell it in the free market at huge profits. That position also gave him two more advantages: he was able to acquire Argentinean citizenship, and he made many important contacts in the international shipping world.
In the fall of 1932, Onassis assembled all of his savings -around $600,000- and sailed to London, the maritime world's capital, to buy ships. Because of the economic crash of 1929-1932, the ships' prices had declined precipitously. A ten year-old freighter, which had cost $1 million to build in 1920, could now be obtained for $20,000. Onassis didn't take long to find what he was looking for: a whole fleet of ten such ships were for sale in Saint Lawrence in Canada. In the winter of the same year, he was found in Saint Lawrence. After brief negotiations, he bought six of those ships in 1933 - for $20,000 each.
Onassis's career as a ship owner had begun.
SUBTRACTION IS GREATER THAN ADDITION
By Heidi Alexandra
I just came out of a mentoring session with my mentor Linda Hutchings what a great reminder it was to take my own medicine and keep it clean by making things simple.
Perhaps like me you're a multi-passionate entrepreneur or leader who has 50 business ideas a day and struggles to decide which one to implement first. As I talked to Linda about some of my latest ideas of launching a new podcast, relaunching a group coaching program, beginning writing another book (I have two underway already), I began to hear the folly of my thoughts.
Yep that's right, I was eating my own vomit.
I'd just spent the morning supporting a CEO at a mining engineering company to reduce the friction in his business and find more flow. We've been looking at where he can strategically narrow his focus and do what is most important. And here I was stacking my plate full.
As the minimalist leader I teach others that:
Doing everything = frustration and friction
Doing few things well = flow and fulfilment
Linda kindly reminded me that we often teach what we need to practice.
Like anything in life and business everything can be improved by adding, or by subtracting. Typically adding is associated positively with enhancing something and subtracting is associated negatively with detracting from something.
The race is always for bigger, better, more. Do more, teach more, share more. We are told to keep adding - be on more committees, say yes to more experiences, strive for more money and definitely aim for more friends and likes. My kick in the pants reminder today is that more doesn't always deliver more, in fact all it often gives us less clarity and more stress.
I have a theory:
Business is pretty simple.
Humans make it complicated.
What if instead we started to focus more on subtracting?
We think the key to productivity is to find ways to get more done. We multitask, we attend productivity workshops and how to manage your email better webinars.
What if the real secret to optimum productivity is to do less while achieving more.
Here are four ideas for how you can implement this:
- Subtract Low Value Tasks - Linda and I worked through all the ideas I had one by one and identified which ones on my list which were the most commercially viable, would have the greatest impact in helping my clients and were in alignment with my big WHY and goals. It became pretty obvious, pretty quick which low value tasks didn't deserve my attention right now (sorry I won't be launching the Minimalist Leader podcast for a while).
- Subtract Distractions - simple really but how many of us can truly say that when we work on one task we remain focused on that task? Why not try my 45:15 batching rule? That is work solid on one thing for 45 minutes - turning off and eliminating all distractions such as email and social media alerts, move to a quiet space, wear noise cancelling headphones, leave your phone in your bag, remove all other folder and work from your desk until the 45 minutes of focused work is done. Then spend the next 15 allowing in all the distractions in, checking messages, making coffee, talking to colleagues etc.
- Subtract Head Over Body - too often in corporate world we are in our heads and not present in our body. In fact one of the smartest ways to get more done in less time is to batch your important tasks for when you're most alert and effective. Generally speaking our brain capacity and decision making ability is highest before lunch so batch the meatier work then. Leave meetings and other less critical items to the afternoon when your physiology is lower in energy.
- Subtract Heavy Tasks - review your list of tasks and consider are there any tasks that really weigh me down and drain me? As a practicing minimalist towing and living in a tiny house, every item I bring into my house has to be weighed up - literally. Whenever I see an item I want to buy or bring into my life I have to consider will this make my 4 tonne home too heavy? How heavy is each task you have on your list? Is it possible to delegate, dump or deal on any of the weighty ones? Maybe you can exchange an hour of work with someone who's pleasure is your poison? Which tasks that are more aligned with your strengths and talents? What 10 degree shift could you make to make each task lighter and more palatable?
The most successful people I know are focused, have boundaries against time vampires, say no to everything not in their top priorities and travel light in flow. If they add something to their life, their business, their commitments it's done so in a mindful, considered way. And they're always subtracting, reducing and eliminating things that no longer support them.
What are you prepared to let go of and subtract from your world?
Alexandria Joy's (AJ) mission is to empower people to create more meaningful, joyful lives that bring a deeper connection with themselves, others and our planet. She wants to shift the way we think about and deal with success in business and life.
As an aspiring minimalist and tiny house dweller she believes in keeping things simple and making 10 degree shifts in all aspects of life and work so you can do less and achieve more.
YOU NEED TO START SAYING NO!
By Oliver JR Cooper
What someone may find is that it is hard for them to say no, having the tendency to do things that they would rather not do. If this is the case, there is the chance that they have behaved in this way for a little while.
Maybe they have been this way for as long they can remember. As a result of this, saying yes, when they should be saying no, can feel conformable even though it is not going to be something they actually want to say.
A Delayed Reaction
When they are asked to do something, they might instantly realise that they don't want to do it, but end up going along with it anyway. At other times, it may take them a while to realise that they have made the wrong decision.
If the latter is something that takes place on a regular basis, it could illustrate that they often lose touch with how they feel. Consequently, their focus will generally be directed away from their inner world and towards the outer world.
Through having the inclination to ignore themselves, a lot of 'negative' emotions may have built-up within them. These emotions could make it hard for them to feel alive and to experience inner harmony.
If they were to connect to how they feel, they may find that they feel angry, resentful, trapped and even powerless. And, unless they do something different, the pain within them is likely to build-up even more.
The Next Step
Let's say that they do get the point where they no longer want to experience life in this way, they may end up looking online for guidance. This could be a time when they will be encouraged to be more assertive.
The key will be for them to tune into themselves before they make a decision and to see how they feel. Therefore, instead of being solely focused on what is going on externally, they will also be focused on what is taking place internally.
A New Outlook
In addition to changing their focus, they may also be told that they need to change the way that they perceive their own needs. For so long, they may have believed that other people's needs are more important than their own; hence why they have typically ignored their needs.
Over time, then, their life will change as long as they implement what they have learnt and keep going until behaving in this way becomes the norm. This could take a matter of weeks or even months, if not longer.
A Different Experience
Then again, they may find it hard to get in touch with their needs and, even if they do, they feel too uncomfortable to listen to them. Going along with what someone else wants is then going to feel safe; whereas the idea of standing their ground could cause them to feel extremely uncomfortable.
They might not just feel slightly unconformable either as their whole body could lighten up. Furthermore, embracing their needs could be something that causes them to experience a fair amount of shame and guilt.
If so, this may show that they are carrying trauma. Perhaps their younger years were a time when it wasn't safe for them to reveal their needs, which is why they had to disconnect from them and to act like an extension of others.
MAKE TIME TO HEAL
By Elaine P Jones
The course of life can lead to many roads. As a child we don't have much say about anything. As a young adult we can begin to make choices; some lead to pleasure, while others lead to pain. We may not realize that some of those choices determine the direction of much of our adult lives.
If we grew up in a dysfunctional home we may repeat some of the same mistakes that caused us pain while growing up. When we make similar mistakes that our parents made they can lead to a cyclical pattern of emotional pain. If you were abused, neglected or abandoned you suffered some degree of emotional trauma. Recognizing emotional deficiencies is the first step.
Not everyone processes emotional pain the same
Getting help for emotional issues requires humility and courage. The fact that emotional pain isn't outwardly visible; often results in denial; which leads to not pursuing any form of help. Not everyone processes emotional pain the same.
Imagine - two people lose their job. One person goes home and is sad, yet not over taken by emotions. The other person is also terminated; he leaves the work-site and returns in a fit of rage. Why? No one can pinpoint all of the reasons two persons experience identical circumstances yet respond differently.
Whenever someone experiences unexpected tragedy in life: there is a process or method that intuitively begins to take place. The Kubler-Ross model states there are 5 stages to grief and loss. They are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Each person is unique therefore there is no specific order or amount of time that dictates how brief or lengthy this process takes. The Kubler-Ross model identifies the emotional occurrences that one might experience due to sudden loss or grief.
Inner healing takes time
Inner healing takes time. Whenever an individual is stuck and seems unable to move past any specific emotion professional help may be the best out. All too often hurting people don't identify themselves as needing help until things have gotten way out of hand.
Self-Love is a good starting point for healing. Love and forgiveness are equally important for emotional well-being. Struggles can build character if we process our emotions in a healthy way. Feeling alone, forgotten and misunderstood is common to man: being stuck in these emotions isn't. It takes strength, courage, perseverance and support to overcome tragedy. Not everyone will overcome; some will remain stuck in grief. No matter what we say or do for them some will not move forward. It's at this point that we should maintain a loving heart towards them; and set boundaries when necessary.
God will often use people to help other people navigate through difficult times. Those that overcome obstacles in their personal lives can be strength to those who are struggling
Your past is your reality, not your destiny
If you have been unable to move forward from grief after an extended amount of time, don't blame yourself. If you have unresolved emotional pain, grief, or bitterness don't lose hope. I'd like to encourage you to make it a point to seek professional and spiritual help to heal. Don't settle for pain being your lot in life. Instead take courage; press past your wounds until you experience wholeness. Make peace with your pain. Your past is your reality, not your destiny.
God wants to heal you and restore peace to your life. There are many dedicated professionals such as; social workers, psychologist, psychiatrist and therapist who are available to help you.
In addition there are qualified pastors and ministers who can help guide you to inner peace. Finding the right help might not be as hard as you imagine. Getting started is the first step. Make getting help a priority and be consistent. Recognize when it's time to stop dealing with your troubles on your own. If your efforts have failed to yield notable results it's time to reach out for help. If you've gotten results that only provide temporary relief this indicates the need for a new method. Get professional help.
Don't let excuses keep you from becoming emotionally sound. Be humble; bold and courageous by taking the necessary steps to acquire victory. Be willing to do the work to get results.
There are many reasons you shouldn't give up on being restored. Do it for yourself, and those who love you. Expect healing to take place. Expect relief to come and grief to be gone. You are worth the fight. Everything in your life won't be summoned up in a day; reach for healing anyway. It takes time to heal; Healing is a process.
Give your pain over to God; He is able to take on the caresof the world without being overburdened.
Instead of suppressing old emotional wounds, confront them, make peace with them, and then let them go. Turn your pain over to God; He is able to take on the care-of the whole world without being overburdened.
Make a decision to be the best you, that you've ever been; starting right now! Get a grip on yourself so you can take charge of your future. Step out of your place of barely getting by. Put away all the things you've used to self-medicate. Trust someone to help you move past your pain. Healing is available!
Come out of your place of hiding; there is no healing there! There is no resolution in a private box! Mankind was not created to become an island. People were created to relate to other humans. Help is waiting, Are you ready? Your healing is waiting for you!
Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.
1Peter 5:7 NLT
YOU NEED TO LEAVE THE PAST BEHIND
By Oliver JR Cooper
The other day I came across a quote that went into how someone's past needs to be left in the past; if it isn't, it will destroy their future. The final point was that they need to live for today, not to be caught up in what happened yesterday.
One way of looking at this quote would be to say that it is sage advice. Clearly, if someone is caught up in what has happened to them it is not going to be possible for them to live in the now.
A Wasted Life
They are then going to allow what has happened to define their life, losing their present point of power in the process. After all, 'now' is the only moment in their life where they can do anything.
With this in mind, it is going to be essential for them to leave what happened in the past, in the past. If they don't do this, they will not only lose the power that they have to shape their life, they will have even more things in their past that will consume their attention.
It will be as if one is carrying around a heavy weight, and this weight will be taking a lot of their attention and energy. Once this weight is put down, their life will no longer be the same.
In the same way, if someone leaves their past behind, it will allow them to embrace the present moment and to have more energy. Putting a rock down might be easier; nonetheless, the outcome will be very similar.
This can then be a time when they will need to make sure that they don't get caught up it their thoughts, to do what they can to be in the now, and to forgive themselves. What is going on up top, in their mind, will be the issue.
So, through putting in the effort, they will soon be able to leave their past behind. The trouble is that while this approach may work, it might just cause someone to experience a lot of frustration.
What this comes down to is that the past doesn't always just exist in someone's mind; it can also exist in their body. When it comes to the mind, it is about thoughts and beliefs and, when it comes to the body, it is about feelings and trauma.
Therefore, although thoughts and beliefs can just be changed, this is not the case when it comes to feelings and trauma. Force might work when it comes to the mind, but this approach is unlikely to work when it comes to the body.
One Big Lie
If someone has come to believe that it is 'all in their mind', it might not even occur to them that the past might also exist in their body. Let's say that they are carrying emotional pain, and they only focus on their mind, they are unlikely to get very far.
What will probably happen is that they will simply push what has come up back into their body, thereby causing their mind to be even more disconnected from their emotional body. A battle will be going on within them, and it might not be long until this stuff comes right back up to the surface, and when it does, it might end up overwhelming them.
Through it, not over it
If they are unable to push this stuff down, it could cause them to feel incapable and to blame themselves. In reality, they are not incapable and there is no need for them to blame themselves.
The main issue will be that they are trying to do something that can't be done, due to believing something that isn't true. Instead of playing around with their mind, they will need to work through what is being held in their body - to surrender to how they feel.
HOW TO DETERMINE WHAT MOTIVATES DIFFERENT INDIVIDUALS
By Rosina S Khan
Ever wondered why what motivates you doesn't motivate others? How do you find out what motivates others? For answers to these questions, read on.
The reason why what motivates you doesn't motivate others is because we have different backgrounds and even follow different cultures. We have been exposed to different life circumstances and challenges. That is why our likings and tastes are different.
But is there a way to find out what motivates others? The answer is yes. Just ask the following questions to the person you are interested in. His/her answers will help you to determine along which lines their level of motivation soars high.
- What do you spend most of your time thinking about?
S/he may answer that s/he dreams of travel and touring around the world. Only if s/he had the money, it would have been possible for her to do so. Therefore, their answer tells you that they would like to explore the world but they are short of money. Touring the world and knowing different cultures motivates them.
- What do you like to do as a hobby?
The answer to this question will be focused on what she likes to do as a hobby for the present. S/he is already doing it and that motivates them. This is unlike the above question, which focuses on future aspirations.
The person may answer that she likes collecting coins of different countries around the world. It has been her obsession since her childhood. She asks you which country you are from and if you can provide her the coins of your nation. So, even if your own infatuation may be reading fictions, her motivation is centered around a totally different area.
- What are some of the favorite things you like to do when you are sad?
This is really a good question. The person's answer whom you address this may help you to follow the favorite things he loves to do in moments of sorrow. You really could pick up some tips.
For instance, he may reply he is really fond of music although actually he is an engineer. When things are not very well, he likes to download tabs from the web, make music and play on his guitar. Otherwise he loves to walk in the chilly fresh air outside and also to journal his thoughts to feel better.
So all the above activities raise his level of motivation when the going gets tough. You could pick up some of his ideas and apply directly to your life to get back the mojo of life.
- What turns you on at the home or work front?
He may answer that watching a comedy movie together with his family or sharing funny anecdotes that happened during the day with his family and having an amusing laugh together really makes him feel good.
At the work front, treating his colleagues and paying the bill during lunch break at the food lounge really turns him on. He loves to know his colleagues better and have a fun chitchat together.
Summing up, the above four questions addressed to anyone and the answers they come up with will help you to realize the other party's line of interests and sources of motivation. Likewise you yourself could answer the questions in your journal and share with others for mutual benefits. Both you and the other party get to understand each other and start following a common thread in respect of raising your motivation levels, compromising each other for the sake of friendship or bonding.
COMMON SENSE - IMPORTANT FOR HEALTH AND LIFE
By Linda Hancock
Over the years people have told me that they appreciate the fact I have common sense as though it is some kind of a rare attribute. Unfortunately, common sense isn't very common, and it certainly doesn't make sense to everyone.
- Focusses on the reality of everyday matters and not on wishful thinking or unrealistic dreams. It sees life as it is but knows that it can improve with good choices.
- Requires time for research and a clear understanding of the everything involved. There is an old adage that states "If it seems too good to be true, it probably is". Taking time to gather information and seek counsel can save a lot of trouble in the long-run.
- Considers options and the consequences of each of them.
- Sorts out important facts from distractions, emotions and unwise advice from others.
- Incorporates delayed gratification principles and seeks long-term benefits.
- Adopts a sound practical approach where action reduces risk and results in a positive outcome.
- Reflects one's personal values and sets good boundaries to protect them.
- Turns theory into lifestyle and knowledge into wisdom.
- Strengthens with practice like a muscle that builds with exercise.
- Can be taught and learned by motivated individuals who recognize the value in making good life choices.
Most of us know simple common-sense ideas but we don't always practice them for a number of reasons that don't always make sense. We know that spending less than our income results in financial well-being Choosing a healthy diet and exercising regularly facilitates good health. Getting enough rest makes each day go better. Reducing impulsivity and alcohol intake limits or reduces relationship problems and protects our dignity.
If you have been accused of not having common sense or find that your life is just not going the way you had hoped it would there are several options to consider:
- Believe in yourself and the idea that you can learn new ways to do better.
- Physically write down a specific issue as well as the choices and consequences for each before acting. Writing things down give them a beginning and an end rather than allowing thoughts to just keep going around and around in your head.
- Think about successes you or others have had in resolving similar problems in the past and why that happened. What was the process used for dealing with the situation?
- Practice slowing down your response time iso that you can gather all the information you need to make a wise choice.
- Consider working with a Registered Psychologist who is trained and experienced in the area of problem-solving.
Before you know it, others will compliment you on your common-sense approach to life and you will start reaping the rewards!
DISTRACTIONS CAN HAMPER PROGRESS
By Linda Hancock
In what my grandchildren call "the olden days" people used to put blinders on their horses. These were firm leather squares that attached to the bridle or hood. Some blinders were plastic cups, but they all had the same purpose. When pulling wagons or carriages it was important for the horse to look forward and not be distracted or panicked by things behind or beside them.
We live in an extremely busy world where twenty-four-hour media can capture our attention to the point that we do not make progress on personal goals. Movies, news flashes and "how to" programs can fill our heads with information that is numbing, addictive or traumatic. Time passes as we allow ourselves to be captured by even the creative advertising that is interspersed. Before we know it, we realize that our domestic chores, business, relationships or homework have been neglected and we no longer have the energy or desire to invest in them.
Personal blinders can be a good thing to adopt. There isn't any use in focusing on the past and what is behind except to garner the lessons learned from our experiences and to congratulate ourselves on the accomplishments. Thinking about what "should have" happened is not productive as we cannot change what is done already.
Gazing around to the sides can be interesting and there are certainly enough distractions to capture our attention if we let them. But spending hours on media or gaming, or crises of everyone else leads to neglect of self-care and personal growth.
It's interesting to think about how a horse does best when s/he is focused on what lies ahead. Difficult terrain can be navigated best and barriers on the road can be avoided.
Sometimes when I am working on a report or project in the office my son comes in to tell me about something that a politician has just said or an event that occurred in a far-off country. I never want to be rude but know that once I am distracted from my task, it will be harder to resume and losing my train of thought can take a time to re-establish. I know that I definitely cannot change either the politician or the other country and usually don't need to have the information right away.
Many years ago, I made a commitment to myself that I would never leave the office until all my paperwork is done. I knew that if I couldn't finish it in one day, I certainly wouldn't be able to do twice as much the following day.
It's the same thing with housework and other personal commitments.
So, I just put on my blinders and focus on the road ahead. It might mean closing the door, not answering the phone or turning off the television until the task is done.
Do you allow what has passed to occupy your mind or what is beside you to distract you from doing what you need to do?
Perhaps it is time to pretend you have a set of blinders. Then you will be able to face the goal and accomplish what lies ahead of you. You will be surprised at how quickly you reach success!
TIPS FOR REDUCING STRESS LONG TERM
By Linda Hancock
So many people tell me that they are overwhelmed and stressed out. They also state that they don't know how to fix this. Following are ten things you can do that will reduce your stress and bring some peace into your life:
- Pay your bills - Make sure that what you owe is manageable. Better yet, pay cash for purchases and ensure that all invoices and loans payments are made before the due date.
- Get enough rest - Turn off the television and computer. Have a warm bath and then crawl into a comfortable bed where it is quiet and dark. If you aren't getting adequate rest, nothing will go as well as you might hope.
- Protect your body - Are you feeding yourself nutritious food that you have planned and prepared in advance? Do you limit your alcohol, sugar, and caffeine intake? Make sure you have at least eight glasses of water a day and only ingest drugs that are prescribed.
- Work hard - There are few things better than feeling a "good tired" after investing your time and talents into a project. My dad was a wonderful role model. He always had a full-time job and a second income that had flexible hours.
- De-clutter - When you are surrounded by things that you don't need your life becomes too complex. You can't find things and feel weighed down/ Time is wasted when you are looking for things or trying to live around the clutter.
- Re-work your calendar - Busyness is not a virtue. I am frequently amazed when people tell me how busy they are as though this makes them valuable. At the same time, they present as tired, disorganized and often suffering from illnesses that go on and on.
- Stop trying to please everyone - Your role is not to be a friend to your child. You do not need to sacrifice your time to repeatedly help people who do not help themselves. People who focus on meeting the needs (and wants) of others often end up being resentful because their needs are neglected.
- Add pleasurable activities to every week - Make sure that you do something every single week that feeds your soul. Go for a walk, listen to music, court a hobby.
- Read biographies - Most life stories tell stories of individuals who faced difficulties and, through effort and consistency, embraced some form of achievement. We can learn from the experiences of others if we will just pay attention.
- Choose relationships carefully - Don't impulsively believe that a person is who s/he says they are. Prince Charming and Cinderella are fictional characters. Not everyone lives happily ever after especially when they are fantasy rather than reality based.
You can make things better in your life. It will take work and time, but the rewards are well worth it.
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CELEBRATING LIFE EVERYDAY
By Linda Hancock
Did you know that May 17th is Norwegian Independence Day?
That country's Constitution was signed in 1814 and the citizens continue to celebrate every year with bands, flag waving, traditional dress as well as parades. The Norwegians really celebrate!
England also has been celebrating this month, first with a new royal baby and also with the birthday of Queen Victoria on May long weekend. Because we call it the Queen's birthday, people often get confused about the fact that Queen Elizabeth was born in April and the May 24 celebration is actually honouring the birth of her grandmother Queen Victoria who was born in 1819.
There are so many statutory holidays at both the federal and provincial level that we observe in Canada on a regular basis - Thanksgiving, Canada Day, Christmas and Easter to name a few.
But, in addition, there are also personal events that need to be celebrated. This year my granddaughter graduated with a degree in engineering from the University of Saskatchewan. Two grandchildren had birthdays in May. We just had a Mother's Day BBQ and in June, I will join fellow students for our 50th high school reunion in our hometown in Saskatchewan.
Unfortunately, people tend not to marry or have funerals, and this robs family members from being able to get together. The prevalence of extended business hours injects a "busyness" into our lifestyles that can block attendance at planned activities that might otherwise attract all family members.
Somehow, we have been lulled into the idea that social media makes up for being physically involved. But a fourteen-character text message or uploaded photo will never take the place of a warm hug and face-to-face conversation.
It is time to re-evaluate the ways that we interact with others and consider how we do or do not participate in celebration activities.
Being involved requires planning and commitment.
Perhaps it would be a good start to just begin celebrating today. Give thanks for what you do have and the ways in which you have been blessed. Then start thinking about the things that you want to celebrate in the future and who you will ask to join you.
SPEAKING UP: DOES THE FEAR OF BEING HARMED STOP SOME PEOPLE FROM SPEAKING UP?
By Oliver JR Cooper
If someone was asked to share their views on something, they might not have a problem speaking out. Also, if another person was to do something that they disagreed with, they could also be happy to speak up.
What this can illustrate is that this is someone who doesn't have any trouble asserting themselves. They could often be described as someone who is confident and comfortable in their own skin.
One is then going to be aware of what is taking place within them and they will feel comfortable enough to vocalise it. Being this way is likely to have a positive effect on just about every area of their life.
Ultimately, it will allow them to behave like an individual, which wouldn't be necessary if they were merely an extension of others. In this case, what was taking place inside them would be no different to what was taking place inside everyone else.
Not a Clone
Like a programmed machine, what is true for them would be true for everyone else on the planet. But as they have their own inner self, it will mean that there will be times when they come out with things that go against what other people believe.
Thus, even if someone agrees what they say in one moment, it doesn't mean that they will in the next. So, just as there can be people who admire the fact that one stands their ground, there can also be people that don't.
A Number of Areas
The connection that they have with their inner world, along with the comfort that they have in expressing what is taking place there, will enable them to show up in their relationships. They will be able to open about how they feel and they will be able to disagree with someone if they need to.
Still, this is not to say that they will be argumentative as they may be able to do this without coming across as aggressive or rude. The people in their life might not have a problem with this as they could be the same.
When they are at work, being this way could allow them to make a greater contribution to a project, for instance. Thanks to the confidence they have in speaking up, they won't need to worry about how other people will respond to their ideas.
Furthermore, it could allow them to move up the ladder faster than they would otherwise. The reason for this is that they will be able to speak up if they don't feel that they are getting paid what they deserve, and this will help them during any interviews that they have.
The Bigger Picture
This can show that one doesn't spend too much time thinking about what may or may not happen if they speak up, preferring to focus on their own objectives. What this will do is stop them from wasting their valuable energy and postponing what they need to do.
Tension may arise after they have said something, but keeping what they said to themselves might not have solved anything. It can often be a case of short-term pain, long-term gain or short-term gain, long-term pain.
Although there will be people who are able to express themselves in this way, there are going to be others that are unable to do so. If someone experiences life in this way, it is going to be a challenge for them to assert themselves.
This doesn't mean that they will never speak up; what it means is that this will be something that rarely takes place. Keeping their thoughts and feelings to themselves is likely to be what feels comfortable.
A Door Mat
Therefore, regardless of whether they are around friends or at work, they will generally keep things in. If they don't like or agree with something, for example, they will do what they can to hide this from others.
Experiencing life in this way is not going to be very fulfilling, yet it is going to be what feels comfortable. If they were to connect to what is actually going on for them and to speak out, they could end up feeling overwhelmed.
A Closer Look
If it is normal for them to keep their true feelings to themselves and to have moments when they don't even know what is going on for them, it could be because they don't feel safe enough to speak up. Deep down, they could believe that doing so would cause their life to come to an end.
One way of looking at this would be to say that this belief is completely irrational and that they need to let it go. Another way of looking at it would be to say that while it may seem irrational, there was probably a time in their life when it was perfectly rational.
During the beginning of their life, they may have been brought up in an environment that was dangerous. One or both of their caregivers may have been physically abusive and, if they dared to speak out, they could have been severely harmed or neglected.
Over time, they may have lost touch with what was taking place within them and just done their best to please their caregiver/s. Even so, losing touch with themselves most likely wouldn't have stopped them for being harmed or neglected.
The trauma that they experienced at this stage of their life will have stayed trapped in their body and, until they start to resolve it, it will be a challenge for them to speak up. This trauma could cause their throat, as well as their body, to tighten up.
DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS
By Oliver JR Cooper
If someone wanted to find out how well they are doing in life, they could end up looking around them. One is then going to compare themselves with the people they are close to, along with the people who they know.
Alternatively, one could think about the people in their life who are around the same age as them and see how they match up. If one thinks that they are doing as well the people in their life or those that are the same age, they could come to believe that they are doing well.
Through coming to this conclusion, they will be able to feel good about themselves and their life. On the other hand, if they think that they are not doing as well as the people that they have compared their life with, they will probably feel bad about themselves and their life.
It is then clear to see that when one compares themselves others, they can feel good about themselves or they can come up feeling short. And even if this approach allows them to feel good at one point in time, it doesn't mean that it will allow them to feel good at another.
A Different Way
The trouble with this approach is that it creates the impression that one started off at the same point as everyone else and that they are on the same path as them. The truth is that they didn't start off at the same point and neither are they are on the same path as anyone else.
So just because they are the same as age as someone else, it doesn't mean that they have gone through the same experiences. For example, perhaps one had a traumatic birth and another person didn't, or maybe the other person was physically abused as a child and they weren't.
Furthermore, although society can do what it can go give someone a purpose, it could be said that they already had a purpose when they entered this earth. However, when someone loses touch with why they are here and gets caught up in what other people want them to do, it will be normal for them to compare themselves with others.
Thanks to the conditioning that they have received throughout their life, they will have lost touch with the fact that they are unique. Comparing themselves with others is then going to be a consequence of being out of touch with their essence and not honouring their own journey.
What one will also need to consider is that even if another person appears to be doing better than they are, it doesn't mean that this person is actually happy. The life that they lead might not be in alignment with who they are actually are.
Then again, this person may have gone through hell to get to where they are. The life that they now live won't have fallen into their lap, it will have taken blood, sweat, and tears.
The key will be for one to realise that they are on their own journey, with this being a journey that is not the same as anyone else's. If they want something to compare their life with, they can compare where they are with where they started.
Looking back on where they have been and comparing it with where they are will give them a way to mark their own progress. If they compare themselves with others, they won't be able to accurately assess their own life.
YOUR BODY IS NOT A DUSTBIN
By Oliver JR Cooper
It has been said that the body is a temple, but while this is the case, it could be said that there are plenty of people that don't view their body in this way. For some people, their body is basically a dustbin.
Now, this can mean that someone will put just about anything into their body - not caring about if it is actually good for them. Furthermore, someone can even eat when they are not hungry.
When the former takes place, they could eat a lot of fast food or food that can simply be warmed up. So although they may be discerning when it comes to other areas of their life, this won't be the case when comes to the food that they consume.
When the latter occurs, there is the chance that someone will often eat good food. However, instead of no longer eating if they are full, they could have the tendency to eat until they have used everything up.
The Right Thing
Their focus is then going to be on what is taking place externally as opposed to what is taking place within them. Clearly, the ideal will be for one to be aware of what is taking place within them, so they know when to stop eating.
One outcome of behaving in this way is that their health could suffer. Even so, it doesn't mean that one will see that there is anything wrong with how they are behaving.
A Strong Influence
They could believe that it is wrong to waste food as there are so many people who are starving. This is not something that can be denied, of course; but living in this way is not going to do them any favours and it is unlikely to do the people who are starving any favours either.
Sure, it might stop them from feeling guilty, yet what it won't do is serve their body. The way for them to serve their body will be to allow this part of them to decide when they have eaten enough.
It could take them a while to get into the habit of doing this, especially if they have a weak connection with their body. Perhaps they are carrying a lot of emotional pain in their body, with this being the reason why they have disconnected from it.
Facing and working through this pain won't necessarily be easy, but it will allow them to eat mindfully. Eating in this way will serve their physical body and it is likely to benefit their mental and emotional health.
If one can see that they are carrying a lot of emotional pain, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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